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If you are Nigerian, then you will understand what we mean when we say some things are just not for us. Some of these things are sexual practices that are just not aligned with our Nigerian-ness. Here is a list of some of them:
1. Toe sucking
You are a Nigerian and you want to suck your partner’s toes? Are you not afraid of the miles they have travelled? Are you not scared of how tough the soles of their feet will be? Imagine sucking the toes of someone from Igando or Ikorodu. God abeg.
2. Eating a man’s ass.
So you became so horny that you decided, out of plain fornication and the romantic gesture of bumping genitals, that you want to eat bumbum. And I’m not mad at it. I admire the courage. But then it’s not just any ass, it is the one owned by a Nigerian man you want to chook your mouth in and eat? Do you have a death wish? Is that how you have chosen to go?
The Nigerian in me would never do this. The moment I hear, “Let me put you in bondage,” my Christianity will resurrect and I’ll start speaking in tongues and shouting, “I shall not be put in bondage. My destiny shall never experience bondage. Everything that belongs to me shall never be bound. Rikabasunbatatatata.”
4. Fisting.
If you don’t know what this is, Google it. But here’s a simpler way to put it: imagine someone putting their entire hand inside your honeypot, their entire hand oh, and not their weapon of love. Imagine them bending you over and putting that complete hand, from palm to wrist to elbow, inside you. Just imagine. JUST. IMAGINE.
5. Public sex.
Many people are doing this, sha. But one day will be one day when you will be caught and we will do GoFundMe to bail you out. Imagine your pastor coming to bail you out and they ask you what you were arrested for: “Collecting hot fok in public.”
6. Pissing.
Somebody’s child that you are, you will kneel down and open your mouth or spread yourself like moi-moi leaf, only for someone to remove their weapon of love and expel hot urine all over you. Hot yellow urine, in this Nigeria where everything is hot.
7. Scat.
Here’s how Google defines it:
“In sexual fetishism, scatology (usually abbreviated scat) refers to coprophilia, when a person is sexually aroused by fecal matter, whether in the use of feces in various sexual acts, watching someone defecating, or simply seeing the feces. Entire subcultures in sexuality are devoted to this fetish.”
Is this what you want to indulge in? Be honest and answer yourself.
But we are not judging sha. Do what you want and have fun. Just stay safe.
We don’t care if you enjoy sex or not. The damage caused by that act is enough and it is time for the government to abolish sex in Nigeria. Here are 11 good reasons why this must happen ASAP.
1. Sex brings pregnancy.
Be honest with yourself, do you want pregnancy at this time?
2. Pregnancy brings babies, and babies steal your peace of mind.
And then the child grows up to hate you, despite everything you did for them. Is this how you want your life to go?
3. Sex makes you confused. You start wondering if it’s love you are feeling.
And like this, they will take you for an idiot. You will begin to condone nonsense in the name of love. We don’t want that for you, so we all need to come together to beg the government to ban this act.
4. Sex is too sweet.
And we all know doctors and dentists don’t recommend things that are too sweet. So, it’s best to choose health over hot fok.
5. Sex is messy and sweaty.
Imagine bathing and smelling nice, only to be rough handled by someone and getting their saliva in your mouth and their sweat all over your body? Imagine getting your hair scattered, and your legs spread apart like a television’s antenna? God forbid abeg. We need to ban such a dirty act.
6. Let’s be honest, sex is unproductive use of our time.
Time you should be using to harvest yam and better your lives or advancing in your career, you are using it to bend over or get bent over while someone is grabbi— Oh no, this act deserves to be abolished.
7. All the heat from hot fok is causing global warming.
Global warming is a serious environmental crisis. Why must you choose to damage your environment because of hot fok? Do you not care about survival?
8. Sex is the leading cause of cheating in Nigeria.
Yes. Yes. Yes. The earlier we abolish sex, the longer relationships and marriages last.
9. Our population is already plenty enough.
We need a moratorium on sex until things normalise. We cannot afford to lapse into overpopulation.
10. Sex makes people scream “Jesus” and “Oh my God”
First of all, do you nasty sinners not fear anything? What if your noise encourages our creator to hasten His second coming?
11. Buhari was angry that all we use Twitter for is sex, so he banned it.
Abolish sex today so we can get Twitter back today.
I am not the kind of person to participate in group sex. It’s not my thing. I prefer a one-on-one session with my partner. But then I met *Joshua on a dating app.
We planned to hook up on a Tuesday evening. He’d said he was having a threesome later that night but was still down to have sex with me in the evening. I was surprised, but I went to his house in Lekki. When I got there, he told me that one of his threesome partners was en route, and we could wait for him to have our own threesome. It sounded interesting, so I waited. That’s how I had my first threesome in Lagos.
After that day, Joshua and I exchanged numbers and became cordial, and he became my threesome plug.
The Friday night when the fivesome happened, I had gone to Joshua’s house for a threesome. I got there around 10 p.m., and we went on a dating app in search of a third party for our threesome. We sent messages to some people on the dating app but didn’t get any response. Eventually, Joshua asked one of his friends who lived nearby to come over. He agreed. While he was on his way, one of the people we texted on the app responded. He said he was down for a threesome and wanted us to come over to his house in Victoria Island.
We would have gone to his house, but Joshua’s friend was already on his way to us, and there was no way we could leave for Victoria Island without seeing the friend first. Besides, it was already almost midnight, and we didn’t want to move around Lagos anyhow — we didn’t drive.
The Victoria Island guy offered to come pick us up, but we declined. We told him we had already found someone and the person was on his way over. We should have stopped texting him at this point; Joshua tried to stop, in fact, but I told him to continue the conversation just so we would see where it would lead. It was supposed to be harmless.
After we exchanged photos, the Victoria Island guy said he also had a friend over at his house and they, too, were looking for a partner. He said they didn’t mind coming over to the house, and after thinking about it, Joshua and I sent the address. In less than 20 minutes, they were already at our flat.
Now, this is where you should take note of the people involved so you don’t get things twisted.
There’s me.
And then there’s my friend, Joshua.
Then there’s Joshua’s friend who lived nearby. Let’s call him TY.
Now, include Victoria Island guy. Let’s call him Emmanuel.
And then add his friend. Let’s call him Ifeanyi.
At a gathering of gay men in Lagos; someone has probably slept with someone before. It turned out the Victoria Island guy (Emmanuel) knew Joshua’s friend (TY). When they came in and saw each other, they did a cordial greeting and went straight to kissing.
And this was the start of my problems. I wanted to kiss Emmanuel because he was attractive. I wasn’t attracted to Joshua’s friend TY at all. Next thing, Victoria Island guy’s friend (Ifeanyi) started kissing Joshua, and so I was left stranded. All the parties in the threesome were kissing each other and I was by myself, looking askance. After so much kissing had gone on, they decided to make room for me.
I should add that TY became available to kiss at some point, but because I wasn’t attracted to him, I kept moving away so he wouldn’t come close. Each time he drew near, I drew backwards or found someone’s body part to occupy me. It was weird.
Soon, space freed up for me to kiss Emmanuel, but when I came close to him, he bent his head all the way back, almost like a gymnast. It seemed weird at first until I realised he didn’t want to kiss me.
In this whole arrangement, I should mention the sexual roles played by everybody. I am a top, as well as the three other guys: Emmanuel, TY, and Ifeanyi. Only Joshua was bottom, and if we were fair, this seemed a bit unbalanced. A better equation would be three tops and two bottoms or people who could switch from top to bottom. I could have bottomed, but I wasn’t prepared for it. When I came for the threesome, my plan was to top. One top and two bottoms.
But back to this fivesome.
After several minutes of kissing, sucking and playing around, the sex began. Emmanuel bent Joshua over, lubed him up and penetrated him. And I had never seen anything scarier all my life. How do I describe it? Emmanuel was so aggressive with his thrusts. Even pornstars don’t behave like that. And as though his rough thrusts were not enough, he added very loud slaps to the mix. He would thrust very fast, then slap Joshua’s butt so hard, it resounded across the apartment. When I heard the first slap, I panicked. I wanted to ask Joshua if he was okay because I did not understand how anyone would genuinely enjoy such a violent act.
***
We took turns. After Emmanuel pulled out, I went next. Then TY, and then Ifeanyi. I don’t think Ifeanyi was really into it. He penetrated briefly and then pulled out. At this point, nobody had climaxed yet. The main focus seemed to be on pleasuring each other.
Because we had just one person bottoming and no other person willing to take dick at that time, people started fucking each other’s thighs. I would have bottomed too, at least to ease the workload of the bottom, but I debated it.
And then, Emmanuel came to me, wanting to fuck my thigh. I wanted to say no, but he was horribly persistent, so I allowed him. He had a condom on and it was dark, so I let him do his thing.
Soon enough, he started begging me to let him put his dick in me. I said no. I wasn’t prepared to bottom and did not want to stain anywhere, but he was persistent. After a long while of incessant begging, I agreed.
He penetrated. About five thrusts in, I noticed something was off, so I asked him if he was wearing a condom. He said yes. That didn’t reassure me. I don’t trust men, certainly not in this setting where we were meeting for the first time. Men lie a lot, and when sex is involved, the lies take on new dimensions.
So I tried to feel his dick for the condom. He moved my hand away and asked what I was trying to do.
“I’m checking for the condom you said you are wearing,” I said.
He hesitated, and so I pushed him out of me. Lo and behold, he had no condom on.
“Where’s the condom you said you had on?” I said.
To see Emmanuel penetrate me without a condom and still lie about it made me very upset. I felt violated, lied to. I am on Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis (PrEP) but I don’t have raw sex with people, especially Lagos men. I mean, I don’t know where your dick has been, so don’t give me something I won’t be able to account for. I use condoms for a number of reasons. One, I am very sexually active. Two, I like to have sex with people and forget about them. When you have sex without condoms, you are plagued with anxiety about your partner’s health status. I don’t want that kind of anxiety.
“Guy, what is the meaning of this rubbish?” I demanded. “Why did you fuck me raw and still lie about it? Why would you do that kind of thing?” I was agitated at this point. Right there, I took my phone and set a calendar reminder to get tested in two weeks time.
Emmanuel lied. He said he was wearing one, and that it probably fell off somewhere.
Fell off where? Is this guy mad?
I threw a fit. I turned on the lights and told everyone to stop fucking, immediately.
“Oya, oya, all of you start wearing your clothes. This thing is over. Pack it up and go home. Now!”
It wasn’t my house, but if I was being violated that way, surely I had a major say. Everyone looked surprised, but I wasn’t backing down.
Now, here’s the most surprising thing. While I was throwing this fit and becoming agitated by the lie told by Emmanuel, my friend, Joshua said nothing, did nothing to show that he was on my side. I know he wasn’t my friend in the true sense of the word; we met about two sex appointments ago, but I still expected him to say or do something to show that he was on my side and was annoyed by Emmanuel’s actions. But he did nothing. I did not know how to feel about that.
Emmanuel continued to lie. He told everyone that he didn’t know he was not wearing a condom, and that when he realised, he pulled out immediately.
EXCUSE ME? Guy, you were not wearing a condom!
But no matter. The sex that everyone had was enough.
They got dressed and started leaving. At the door, Emmanuel tried to shake my hands as though everything was normal.
“Fuck off,” I said.
That was when TY stepped in to stop any budding conflict.
“Emmanuel was just trying to make peace,” TY said.
But I was not having it. I kept my hands to my sides until they exited the house and I was left alone with Joshua.
“Why didn’t you speak up when I told everyone what Emmanuel did?” I asked Joshua after everyone had left.
His reason was that he had been in situations and heard stories where people having an orgy would get into a fight and throw fists and everything would get so messy, and he was trying to avoid that.
“It’s not that I didn’t want to speak up,” he said. “But you know we are gay people. If the whole thing escalates, someone might call the police and you and I both know where that can lead.”
At that moment, I understood why he chose silence.
“Do you still want to fuck?” Joshua asked later when I calmed down.
“Yes,” I said. “I still want my nut.”
We had sex and we came. Two weeks later, I went to get tested and I was negative for any disease.
It was an interesting experience, and I do want to have sex with more people. After that time, I have done a foursome with Joshua, and I am open to more. Lagos can make you do things; that’s the conclusion of the matter.
How difficult is it to stay chaste in a relationship when both parties are people with feelings? For this article, I spoke to 7 Nigerians who told me their difficulties and triumphs.
This was a very difficult piece and I will tell you why. When I originally put out the call for stories, I directed it to married couples who didn’t kiss or have sex before their marriage. I wanted to know about their sex life: any regrets? Tips?
For days, I got nothing. And then, this simple one:
*Esther.
I’m enjoying sex apart from kissing because he has mouth odour. I discovered when we got married. We are learning to satisfy each other on sex. Seriously, no wahala about that.
When I reached out to ask more questions, I got no response. So I changed the call.
This is for Christian boyfriends and girlfriends on the TL.
How do you maintain chastity in your relationship? How do you manage the temptations to have sex. It's for @zikokomag.
I extended the call to include Muslims and other religious couples. Some sent in stories, some sent hi and nothing else, and some left their stories unfinished. But here are the most interesting answers I got.
Damilare.
I tried. I really tried to hold myself. The heavens know how much I tried acting like a saint up and down. We will kiss small and body will be doing gish-gish. We will start giving each other the word of God. Wo, it happened when it wanted to finally happen and we haven’t stopped since. Those people that are not doing it, 98 percent na iro repete. Pure lies.
Ebele.
We met in church. After a lot of chasing and convincing on his end, we started dating. We’ve been together for 1 year and 8 months. In the talking stage, we were both on the same page about abstaining till marriage. We decided to take it further and not kiss as well. But when we were faced with reality, it was harder than we thought. Once, I came back from a trip and he welcomed me with a kiss on my neck that ended up being a hickey. It wasn’t fun explaining it people. We eventually gave in and started kissing by the 3rd month of our relationship.
For me, it’s pretty easy because I don’t always have sexual urges but I know it’s really difficult for him because I see it in his eyes. Yet, he has never tried to pressure me or make me change my mind because he knows it’s important to me. It’s also important to him. I forget that men can be sensitive and there are times when I sit on his laps or between his legs and he has to remind me if I know where I am sitting. It used to be awkward at first but now we just laugh about it and I change location. We are very aware of what turns each other on so we are careful about how/where we touch each other. I won’t lie, it’s not exactly easy but we have had to learn other ways of spending our time that doesn’t involve being physical.
Gloria.
My partner and I have been dating for two years now. Before we met, we were (and still are) pretty hypersexual people. I’m a Pastor’s kid, just as he is, so we knew what we were doing and what it is to our faith.
When we started dating, we had sex everywhere we could, even on holy grounds. But earlier that year, I was uncomfortable about something and I kept feeling the need to draw closer to God. Through introspection, I realized that the one thing I could point out as a sin in my life is fornication. So I spoke to my partner, and even though it wasn’t the easiest decision to make, I told him I was going celibate, and it was up to him to decide what’s next. Obviously, for a couple looking to get married, his choice was to join me.
I’m not going to lie, it’s been very hard. VERY hard, and sometimes, we do not make it easy for ourselves. We’ve gone like 8 months straight, then what I like to call “fall” which makes my friends burst out in laughter has happened. And in those moments it’s good but the aftermath isn’t always good. I disconnect from God for a few days, even when all I have read tells me not to. One day I started crying after having sex and he was feeling really bad. To be honest, I’ve never felt guilty about sex, and feeling guilty now makes me feel very terrible so we’re trying to sort and process those feelings and also understand that we are human and need God’s grace to do this and not just our self.
We are also studying the Word more and praying more and that makes us very happy. It’s pretty hard because while there are resources online from strangers, the Christian couples close to us are either pretending they’re not having sex or struggling or have decided to fuck it and just have sex. And it’s really disappointing because who are we supposed to look up to? It’s one of the reasons why I’m always open to speaking about it and the moments we “fall” because I know it’s not as easy as some people make it to be.
We still have 4 years till our “wedding date”, and even though it’s not easy now we keep pushing. Sometimes, we steal kisses here and there then try to suppress what we’ve started. I’m looking forward to the next few years and praying really hard to God because, I’m not even going to lie, HAVE YOU SEEN MY MAN? And the things we can do together in bed or anywhere really. Whew.
Mojisola.
I’ve been in quite a number of relationships. When I’m about to enter one, I make sure to declare my stand of abstinence before we start anything. Some of them first say they agree but turn to something else when we’re into the relationship. In my current relationship, it’s different. My boyfriend is 24 and has been sexually active. But he told me that when he met Jesus, he made a commitment to stay off. And so, for me now, abstaining is a whole lot easier with him. I don’t have to explain why I want to stay that way over and over. We’ve been together for a year now. Sometimes when we are alone and of course those feelings start arising, he’s the first to push back and remind me of our commitment. I didn’t believe there were men like that out there till I met him. I can pretty much say I look up to him spiritually because he has made me grow past where I used to be when we met.
Ituen.
I am a Christian in a three-year relationship with a fellow believer. It’s a weird story because we didn’t start out celibate. In fact, he was the first person I ever had sex with. We were both Christians but at that time I was the more “serious” believer. I had just come out of a messy relationship, and he was supporting me through the breakup, and boom, somehow we had sex. When he realized he was my first, he freaked out, but I was a bit calm about it and moved on.
Due to my emotional state at that time (as a result of the last breakup and other issues), the sex continued a few more times until I snapped out of it and “recalled” that it was against my faith. I told him that if he wanted a serious relationship then sex has to be out of the deal. Because if it comes down to my faith and him, I would choose my faith over and over.
We set some boundaries (actually I did), but he just had to agree. No sleepovers is the main one. No freaky chats, no lonely visits too. We see each other mostly in public now. He has since grown more serious with his faith and he is even happy about the celibacy rules. We have been celibate for 2 years 6 months now.
Mayowa.
TW: Abuse.
I’m a guy in my mid 20s. I’ve been dating my girlfriend for three years now and we’ve never had sex. There are a couple of reasons for this. First of all, I’m a Christian, but more importantly, she’s a Christian too. I say this because if I was dating someone else and she wanted us to have sex, I’d most definitely have done it. I know that if I push it a bit and ask her for sex, it’ll happen. I think she knows it too. But we act like the option is not on the table.
She thinks I’m a virgin, but I’m not. I was abused as a child by my elder cousins, both male and female. I don’t know if that counts as losing my virginity. I think it does. Nobody knows about it except two of my friends and I only just told them last year. The abuse ended when I was about 8 or 9, but it made me hate myself a lot as a child because I kept seeing myself as a sinner. It seemed to me like fornication, and fornication is wrong, so I blamed myself for it.
In my guilt, I promised God that if he saw me as “clean” and a virgin again, I would never have sex before I got married. That was what inspired my chastity in the earlier parts of my life, especially in my first year at the university. That, and the emphasis my mother places on the importance of virginity till marriage. Her words stuck.
Despite all these though, I was making out, getting and giving head. I do that with my girlfriend too. I’m a very hypersexual person. I think about sex all the time. It’s happened since I was a kid, and I think it’s because of the abuse. I’ve read online that abuse at a young age makes some people hypersexual. I feel like a hypocrite a lot. Sometimes I ask myself if I’m actually not fornicating. But I’m sure I have an amazing relationship with God. He talks to me, I talk to Him, I worship, He heals people through me, I speak in tongues. I am an actual Christian. I don’t want to have penetrative sex till we get married. But with the way we’re going, I think it might happen. I hope it doesn’t.
What are the foods and drinks that enhance libido? Ah, we have answers! 🥳 Today on Ranked, we bring you the low-down on foods and drinks that will help increase your sex drive. Feel free to include them in your diet if you want to get your groove on.
For today’s rankings, you can disregard the positions.
1. Watermelon
Watermelon is rich in an amino acid called citrulline. This relaxes and dilates blood vessels that help increase sex drive. Y’all know what that means? 🌚
2. Coconut Water
Raise your hand if you believe drinking coconut water will make you a blockhead. Apparently, our good sis here contains nutrients that are beneficial to getting a climax. I guess that’s why they changed her PR before we discovered her potential.
3. Banana
This one isn’t shaped like a penis for nothing. We stan a fruit that lives a life aligned with its purpose. Eat it if you want to increase your energy level, boost semen and aid erection. It’s really a holy trinity of pleasure.
LMAO don’t you ever wonder why dark chocolate is included as part of a Valentine’s day package? This hunk right here stimulates the body’s production of serotonin and Dopamine, and when these two things are in, then you know the gbedu is about to enter body.
5. Red Wine
Here’s the thing about Red Wine: it boosts testosterone. That’s not all. Red Wine also makes you horny. Why else do you think some women say the wine went straight down to their pum-pum? Ah, we see y’all. Keep doing the good work.
6. Dates
Dates have been used as aphrodisiac and is known to improve sexual stamina, libido and your performance. Quick tip: You can soak dates in milk overnight and drink it the next morning. Or maybe include it in your smoothie. Ouuuuuuu 💦
7. Tigernut Milk
This one is key for sexual arousal. It also helps you last longer in bed. And the sellers know it too. This one is between me and you: combine date, banana and tigernut together, and drink it. See if you will not come back and share your story on Zikoko’s #SexLife.
If you score more than 6/9 in this quiz, then you’re something of an expert. All you have to do is identify brands of condoms and other sexual enhancers. Do you think you can do it?
Sex toys are one of those things that are becoming more popular with younger Nigerian women. That is why, I asked some of them to share their sex toy experience with me.
Zainab (19)
I was never a believer in multiple orgasms. After one, I would be unable to go again, but that was until I bought my first vibrator. The first day I used it, I thought my siblings will find me dead, vibrator in hand. My stomach hurt from all the contracting and I thought I would develop abs afterwards (I did not). It has definitely made me more open to the idea of multiple orgasms, and any partner that is not willing to do that for me, I have a vibrator that will.
Tokyo (19)
The first time I used a sex toy, it was a friend of mines. It was after a night out and we all just came back home very tipsy. I picked her vibrator from where it was charging and just used it. She saw me with it and wanted to join in. Our third friend came into the room, saw the both of us and that is what led to the first threesome of my life . Six months later I finally bought mine and I absolutely love it.
Yetunde (21)
So there is this difference between a dildo and an actual penis. The first time I had a strap-on used on me, it felt like I was being fingered. Not because it was small or anything, but because it felt very intimate. She got pleasure from using it on me and that’s basically how fingering works. The second time, I was the one using the strap and it was with a man. It was a bit painful for him at first because it was my first time, but we found a way around it. It made me feel closer to him in some way. I would definitely do it again, but mention to Nigerian men you want to stick a strap in their ass and they no longer like the idea of anal.
Chidera (22)
My first sex toy was a purple rabbit. I did not like it as much because sometimes the part for the clit stimulation would not fit right because you have to stuff the entire rabbit in. So, I took the idea of knowing what I wanted and bought a clit sucker. I still use my rabbit with other partners sometimes, but then I love being able to just stay at home and go at it. Masturbation for me is a short term release that can be super beneficial. My toys make masturbating more fun which leads to more frequent masturbation, and that enables me get respite when sex with another person is not readily available. It stops me from making really reckless decisions.
Celine (23)
I got into BDSM in like early 2014, but did not buy my first kit till 2020. It has cuffs, a leash, blindfold, leather whip, feather, butt plug, other butt relating stuff and a vibrator. Before then, I had been using things like ties and stuff with my male partners (I am the dom). The first person I used the kit on actually broke the chains on the leg cuffs, and I have never been more excited to spend my money on another set. It means I was doing something right. The whip is definitely my best part of the kit.
Amina (27)
A friend of mine had been preaching to me about getting a sex toy because I was always complaining about how men never got it right, and I was too shy to actually say anything to them. For my birthday in February, she bought me this thing called a clit sucker. I actually did not use it until March, when the lockdown was really getting to me. That night, I could swear that my spirit left my body. The next day, I bought my friend a bottle of wine to say thank you. Best. Gift. Ever.
Maserati (34)
I used to be able to squirt, but with my then partner of six years, I never did. Then I got this amazing lelo vibrator (the bullet I had before this was child’s play), and one day while casually going through the different settings and functions, I found myself vibrating and spilling all over. Safe to say, I still got it.
Tola (36)
The first time I wanted to try anal sex, my partner at the time said we should start with butt plugs. I genuinely thought you just stick the penis in the hole with lube and InshAllah, but luckily for me, he knew what he was doing. It took about a week before we actually did anything. What happened was he kept increasing the size of my butt plug everyday. I would walk around for about three to six hours a day with a plug up my bum. At first it was uncomfortable, but as time went on I started looking forward to it. Definitely a fun experience. When the time came to actually have the anal sex, it was very pleasant. The initial discomfort I thought I would feel was not there.
Long before smartphones became popular, sneaking to watch pornography (AKA Blue Film) is something young Nigerians have done. Sometimes, you scale through without wahala, and sometimes, the devil just decides to remember your sins that day. Allow us to take you down memory lane.
1. It begins when your parents leave the house and you are home alone.
And there is light, and because the idle mind is the devil’s workshop, you whip out that contraband CD and slot it in the DVD player. When the show starts, you reduce the volume and feel comfortable.
2. The door is locked, but your ears are active and listening for every sound.
Because if it looks like someone is coming, you need ample time to remove the CD, hide it, switch off the TV, and act like things are normal.
3. Sometimes, it’s a good experience.
NEPA favours you, you get your orgasm, clean up and still have enough time to put things back in place.
4. And sometimes, your village people can decide to play volleyball with your destiny.
This is when NEPA takes light. And you’ve not even reached climax yet. You’ve not even reached rising action.
5. You, trying to remove the CD from the DVD player with a screwdriver.
With your heart beating like hell and you wondering what made you decide to even watch blue film that day.
6. Sometimes, the screwdriver will fail you.
And then you will carry the whole DVD player to the barber’s shop or any place where their generator is on. The devil works hard, but you have a PhD in greater works.
7. And sometimes, when the devil is hell bent on finishing you, nobody in your area will have the generator on.
And so you will sit in horror and wait for NEPA to bring light, so that your parents will not reach the DVD before you and see what you, their innocent child, has been up to.
You only name things you love. For example, your dog, your mobile phone, etc etc. So, if you’ve been looking for ways to show your penis that you love it, we have a list of names for you to consider.
1. Destiny Changer.
2. Rod of Correction.
3. Powerbank.
4. Staff of Office.
5. Odogwu.
6. Sweet and salty.
7. Joystick.
8. Anita (in case you prefer something delicate).
9.Sugarcane.
10. The Explorer.
11. Resurrection.
12. Encounter (imagine telling your lover, “Darling, would you like to have an encounter?)
13. Small but mighty (this one get as e be, but you be man. You go know as you go take put am).
14. Rod of Destruction (God help you if you are a one minute man).
15. Favour (because anyone you give it to is an act of favour. Unless you are cheap sha).
Public sex is a major turn on for a lot of people. But this is Nigeria, and only a few adventurous people get to try it before they die. So, if you are one of the few adventurous people who needs a list of really public places for sex, this one is for you.
1. A local market.
Calm down and let us tell you how you will do it: You and your lover will enter a shop in Oshodi or any market of your choice. Let it be a shop where they are selling clothes or something you can try on so you will have an excuse to enter the testing room with your partner and then gum body for like 30 seconds or 1 minute or 1 hour. It’s up to you.
2. ATM queues.
Does this not turn you on already? While people are waiting to withdraw money, just enter one corner and do the do while soft breeze blows on your yansh. Flex.
3. Uncompleted building.
You can throw in a lirru bit of BDSM and reenact your 25 Shades of Grey. Just carry rope in your bag and small groundnut oil. Tie each other to the available 2 by 2 planks and get your groove on.
4. BRT buses.
Wait till nighttime so that people will not be looking at you. Just sit next to your partner and crossover. Whatever happens next, that’s none of our business.
5. An empty keke maruwa.
Deny that you’ve never thought of this. Go on, we dare you.
Public sex = public toilets… Are we on to something? One thing though: be ready to soak yourself in disinfectant for 3 days afterwards. Otherwise ehn.
7. The beach.
Some people have kuku done it here before. If you act right, we can get you past questions from them.
Have you read this week’s Sex Life?
The subject of this week’s #SexLife is a 30-year-old bisexual woman who didn’t start having sex until her late 20s. She talks about getting pregnant after her first sexual experience and how being a single mother has impacted her sex life. Read here:
I’ve always been a fan of Google. I mean, you can ask the search engine pretty much everything and you won’t be judged for it. I guess I’m not the only one on this table. However, Google collects and stores all this data, and now we know some of the things you people are searching for.
1. I get a lot of things here, but why are so many people researching how to be Yahoo Boys?
I don’t know who needs to hear this but Hushpuppi is in a fix right now
2. You people are having a lot of sex, aren’t you?
3. And you like money too
Wouldn’t it be interesting to know about how Nigerians move money in and out of their lives? Well, Naira Life is your plug.
4. Heh, good to see that we brought the “Acrimony” debate here too
5. I don’t know about others but I see Nigerian men all over 1 and 3
Also, has the definition of a noun changed? I’m still using the definition I learned in primary school.
6. Normalise paying for the content you consume, you guys
Apparently, women don’t exactly have to be conscious or awake to achieve an orgasm. According to Dr. Sherry Ross, blood can still flow to the genitals without physical stimulation. Having a sexy dream can make this happen, and that boost in blood flow can lead to an orgasm. Has this happened to you before? Well, these women have stories to tell: 6 Women On What Their First Orgasms Felt Like
3. Despite what men claim, only 15 percent of them have a penis longer than seven inches, and only 3 percent have a penis more than eight inches long.
4. There is something called post-sex sadness. And yes, it is a real thing.
Have you ever cried after sex, even really good sex? This might be due to what Health refers to as Post-coital dysphoria (PCD). It is characterized by intense feelings of sadness, anger, and distress after sex, most likely after orgasm. PCD can happen after masturbating, and yes, men experience it too. Here’s a spicy Sex Life story for you: I Regret Letting My Body Count Enter The 300s
5. When two people kiss, they exchange between 10 million and 1 billion bacteria.
You know this don’t you? But you still carry on with kissing, because something must kuku kill a man.
6. The average male orgasm lasts six seconds while the average female orgasm lasts twenty seconds.
Nigerians in open relationships may not be the most conventional or popular couples to exist, but they do exist. That’s why we decided to look for different Nigerians who are in open relationships or have been in open relationships to ask about their experience. Here’s what they said:
Susan, 30/Female/Bisexual – “I ended my open relationship out of jealousy.”
I was in an open relationship with a woman back in 2015. We decided from the beginning that the relationship was going to be open, not because we didn’t love each other a lot, but because this life is too short to be with one person. I loved every bit of it in the beginning. There were no clear rules, but I expected her to be as reasonable and honest as I was about the entire thing.
Unfortunately, she started lying (unnecessarily) when she went to see the men she was sleeping with. Sometimes, we would go out together and she would leave me to hang out with a man she was sleeping with. On one particular occasion, she even left with the guy but didn’t tell me she was leaving with him. I was also seeing men on the side, but I was honest and transparent about it. At least I think I was. The entire thing made me really jealous, so we drifted apart and ended it. I haven’t been in an open relationship since then. I feel a lot of Nigerians don’t know how to be in open relationships. They’d rather cheat.
Nonso, 32/Male/Heterosexual – “I opened my marriage due to sex-related troubles and it hasn’t solved the problem.”
Last year, my wife and I were having sex-related troubles, so we decided to explore opening the relationship. We have a few rules like: you can’t see more than two people at once, you must use protection, you must be honest about who you’re seeing and how much time you’re spending with them. Because we’re in a very structured relationship, we review these activities regularly.
It hasn’t really done anything to revive our sex troubles, but it has made us more honest and friendly with each other. So far, we haven’t had any problems. I am ready to stop and seek more practical ways to solve the issues we’re having. While I’m having fun on the side, I really love my wife and lowkey don’t want any man to steal her with bomb preek. The problem now is, I don’t know how to tell her. She seems to be having more fun than me.
Tolu, 25/Female/Lesbian – “My partner wanted to explore her polyamorous side.”
We decided to open our relationship because we both thought we wanted to experience other people. My partner wanted to explore her polyamorous side and I just wanted to explore. It was only sexual. It was agonizing to say the least. Letting go of my possessiveness was really hard. I had sex with one person. My partner had sex with two. We eventually decided to go back to normal because it wasn’t working out. It was a lot of angst with little reward so we weighed our options and decided closing it was best.
Khadeejah, 28/Female/Heterosexual – “Our open relationship didn’t work out for my partner, so we’re back to being monogamous.”
I’m currently in a monogamous relationship. It was an open relationship beforehand but things didn’t work out from my partner’s end. Men tend to be taken aback when women say they would rather not be monogamous. My experience while it was open was great. I love not having to lie about seeing other people. I hate secrets and love being free. It was both sexual and romantic for me. Being able to love and be with multiple people that contribute in different ways to my happiness, was liberating for me.
My partner and I went back to monogamy because he was jealous. For context, I was already polyamorous before I met him. I was in another romantic relationship while we were in the “talking stage”. He tried to act like he was okay with it at first. I was upfront about it; I said this is what I want and I don’t want to have to sneak around. He tried to make it work because he probably didn’t want to lose me but he was just too hung up on the conventional way of doing things and so after a lot of back and forth, I decided to give monogamy a try.
He means a lot to me and I don’t want to lose him. It has been okay so far. It’s been 2 months. But we’re in a stay-at-home situation, so there isn’t a lot of going out yet. I’m going to try my best to make it work because I agreed to it but I don’t know what that’s going to be like yet.
Tinu, 29/Female/Heterosexual- “My husband and I are contemplating opening our relationship after making out with neighbours.”
My husband and I recently started contemplating opening our relationship. We haven’t decided on anything yet, because of Covid and all — and I don’t know if we will — but something happened last year that spurred this. We moved to a new country and didn’t have a lot of friends in the city and neighborhood. But then we met a couple and became friends. The four of us spent time together and sometimes, they brought their kids with them. One day though, their kids weren’t around, so we drank a bit and got pretty shitfaced.
I can’t remember who came up with the idea to swap partners, but it happened and I was making out with someone that wasn’t my husband and my husband was making out with someone that wasn’t me. It was really exciting. When we got home, my husband and I had really amazing sex. We talked about it afterwards and there were mixed feelings about the entire experience. We decided to stop hanging out with them. We started talking about it again recently and we now think that just making out with that couple might have done something to our sex life.
Michael, 27/Male/Heterosexual – “Being in a long distance relationship made us open our relationship.”
We’re in a long distance relationship. She’s in school abroad and I’m in Nigeria. We’re practically married — we’ve done introduction — but the strain of being in a long distance relationship is getting to us. So when she brought it up, I was happy to go with it — anything to make her happy. I’m not going to lie and say it’s not hard for me, that’s why I don’t ask her about the details. I don’t know if we’ll stop when she moves back home. Probably sha. We’re taking it one day at a time.
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What do you do after having sex? This was asked by a Twitter user, and we took time within ourselves to find answers. Here is a list of possible things to do.
So when you finish having s*ex, is there some kind of closing ceremony? Like do y’all clap or something?
1. Stand at attention and sing the national anthem.
Don’t forget to say the pledge too. And if you realise that you don’t know it, maybe not have sex next time? That valuable time you spend ransacking each other’s private regions could be better spent proving your loyalty to this country.
2. Turn to each other and shake hands firmly for a job well done.
We assume that either of you achieved orgasm that made you scream like you were auditioning for a horror movie. If this did not happen, you can either decide to attempt a rematch or dress up and thank each other for a fruitless time spent together.
3. Both parties can organize a Zoom meeting or send a WhatsApp broadcast to update their friends and family on the present situation of things.
Dear friends and family, it is with great pleasure in my heart that I inform you about my just concluded coital experience. It started off with an uncovering of garments, after which I proceeded to spread myself flat like suya on a mallam’s grilling net. And then, my coital partner, a man of immense experience, went… (complete the rest by yourself).
4. Start picking beans to cook.
Even if you have no intention to cook it, still do the picking. You or your partner needs to appear useful and busy, and from the kind of sleep the partner is probably sleeping, it looks like you’re going to be the useful one.
5. Enter the street and start fighting.
This is recommended if the sex wasn’t particularly satisfying. The remaining pent up energy inside you, use it to throw blow. Who knows, somebody might choke you while punching you and the much needed orgasm might be achieved while you lie in the sand, fighting for your life.
6. Strategise, contemplate, muse, think.
Think about the dangers of capitalism, or how a decentralised system of government might benefit Nigeria. Draft a 250-word essay on why police reforms should be considered in the Nigeria of today. These are important things to think.
7. Bow down your heads for prayer.
Go on your knees with the remnant of your orgasm/ejaculation.
I spoke to a couple of men about some of the misconceptions about men that need to be demystified.
Here’s what they had to say:
1) “I don’t know who told these women that we enjoy wickedness or mind games; we don’t. At least, I don’t. And I know like five other guys who don’t.”
2) “I am not a mind reader, neither do I like to guess. Many women seem to think that we enjoy hints. No, pls be direct. I don’t like stress.”
3) “I tell my babe that I love attention and being gassed as much as she does. Why am I sending her photos and she’s telling me ‘you look nice.’ Spin me and tell me you can’t live without me. We love the attention as much they do. Who no like better thing?”
4) “The one I hate is that all men cheat. It’s so somehow. People cheat; both men and women. One gender just has better PR.”
5) “Another narrative is that we are emotionless. It’s difficult to express how you feel when you’ve been raised to not show pain or discomfort. That we’re not showing it doesn’t mean we aren’t feeling it. I and my close boys have taken turns crying on each other by 2 am when everyone was asleep. Sometimes, it’s not just the right situation to show emotions because of society.”
6) “Let it be known that not all erection is as a result of konji. Sometimes, it’s cold, sometimes my penis just has a mind of its own.”
7) “On some social issues that I genuinely want to learn more about, I don’t like the way I get shut down with labels or tags. I dislike the word mansplaining because sometimes I genuinely don’t know. And the people that say ‘read a book’ don’t appreciate that growth isn’t linear.
It’s like the blind men and the elephant where everyone was describing the part they touched. It was an elephant alright, but they all had different descriptions. Truth is perspective sha. last last.”
Nothing is as awkward as the first time you buy a condom. It’s funny how something that literally signifies being responsible can be so…difficult.
Do you remember the first time you bought a condom? I asked some young Nigerians to share their firsts with me.
Austin/Male.
“My first time was bad. There was a pharmacy opposite my house, but I couldn’t go there because the woman knew me and my family. So, I had to walk like 30 minutes to a Pharmacy far away enough. Even then I was still an awkward mess. I only needed the condom, but I still ended up buying a bunch of other useless things to help distract from it.”
Junior/Male.
“My first experience wasn’t dramatic. The attendant at the supermarket didn’t even give a shit. I was the one feeling awkward so I bought a ton of shit along with it I didn’t even need- Bread. Groundnut. Crackers.
I dropped the pack of condoms between these things on the checkout table and the stupid cashier stretched for it and scanned it first. Lmao.
Pretty sure everyone behind me gave me looks but I carried my head high. Nothing could destroy my mood right then because I had knacks waiting for me.”
Jane/Female.
“It wasn’t funny oh. I just dey code, dey code. I hid the condoms beneath the things I got. By the time the cashier got to it, I was just taking face away.
It was a lady, and she was like ‘are you sure you’re getting two packs’? and there was a queue. I was just like ‘yh, yh, pack it.’
Tayo/Female.
“It was nothing special. It was just like buying water.”
Tope/Female.
“I helped a male friend get condoms at a supermarket. It was my first time getting it and I didn’t know the section they were displayed.
I had to summon the courage to ask one of the sales attendants. She pointed me to the section and I could literally feel her eyes look at me one kind (it may have been in my head ). I got to the section and I saw only two brands so I had to ask another sales attendant if they had more brands available.
I felt her look at me one kind when she answered me. I then went ahead to pick a brand. I didn’t want to buy 1 because I was told to buy 5. The look the babe gave me when I picked 5 condoms was hilarious (coupled with the fact that the lockdown was just recently eased and it was a Thursday evening. very close to the weekend. In my mind I was like these ones would be thinking I want to go kill someone’s son after the lockdown).
Steve/Male.
“I remember that my first time was on a Sunday. I went into the pharmacy and saw two women that looked like church mothers.
I steeled myself and entered.
Then, I asked for the condoms. She now said “we don’t sell such here” with such judgment. I knew that I was going to feature in her future sermons to her children. I sha bought my condoms elsewhere and I had a good time.”
Taiwo/Male.
“The first time I tried to buy a condom, the woman at the counter was just preaching to me. She was like premarital sex is a sin and I’ll go to hellfire. I thanked her when she was done and I bought the biggest pack of condoms she had on sale.”
Having a best friend is one of the best relationships a girl can get. There’s no drama, no cheating, just the best vibes, and the most amazing support system. But it usually takes a process highlighted with fun BFF milestones.
1. Your first hangout.
Usually the equivalent of a date, but this time more casual and less pretentious. It’s the first time you both spend together doing something fun or just getting to know each other. It can happen in the most ordinary ways, sometimes it’s not even planned but at the end of the day you go home knowing you just landed a great friend and the vibe was off the charts.
2. Your first time partying together.
This is usually planned and usually comes later on in the friendship. It’s your first night out with your girl and sometimes you don’t even let any guy come in between in the name of toasting. It’s just you two and the cruise you are on.
The part where you channel your inner Oprah, Dr. Phill, and Joro to help them get through a painful breakup. Sometimes it works and they snap out of it, other times they go right back to the relationship. But the important thing is you were there at their most vulnerable point.
4. The first time you lend them your favorite something.
And they bring it back in one piece. Fam, thats a sign.
5. Your first gift from them.
And it turned out to be exactly what you were hoping it would be. Because they actually listen to you and they know you that well.
6. Then you have your first fight.
But you both bounce right back. No one starts spreading rumors about the other person. You both maintain a ‘love and light’ vibe but from afar.
7. Your first time meeting their family.
And everything goes so well you feel like you’ve found a second family.
8. Celebrating you first birthday with them.
And they come through for you in all the ways you want. They go all out to host the best party for you, rally round your best pals and finish off with the sweetest gift. BFF’s are truly a blessing.
Which of these BFF milestones can you relate was the best memory for you?
It’s pretty common to have unrealistic expectations about how your first time having sex will turn out. Thanks to movies and books, many hope for something magical and earth-shattering, but that’s rarely ever the case.
So, we asked 7 Nigerians to share with us how their first times went — juxtaposing expectation with reality. From panic attacks to performance anxiety, their stories are varied and real.
Demola, 29/Male/Bisexual
Since I didn’t know I was bisexual until I turned 16, I spent most of my teenage years expecting my first time to be with a woman. In my head, it was going to be really sexy and romantic.
My first time was neither of those things. I was 17 and it was with a guy I met on Facebook. It was terribly awkward. I was so nervous that I could barely maintain an erection, and when I finally did, I came in seconds.
Tomisin, 25/Female/Bisexual
TW: This story contains distressing information. Reader’s discretion is advised.
Growing up, I hoped my first time would be mind-blowing. It wasn’t at all. I told my boyfriend at the time that I wasn’t ready to have sex. I made it clear that only making out was on the table.
After dating for 9months, he said he was no longer sure I was a virgin. So, he locked me in his room one night, refusing to let me leave until he “confirmed” that I was a virgin.
I had a curfew and a strict mum, so I just gave in. It was painful and he wasn’t gentle. At the time, I didn’t know I’d been raped. After everything, the asshole still accused me of lying because there wasn’t blood.
John, 29/Male/Straight
I never really thought about having sex until it happened. There were times I was presented with the opportunity, but I was scared. I liked blowjobs and breast, but the vagina scared me.
When I was 16, my friend took me to a brothel and told a babe to take me up. I’d been drinking all day, so when she spread her legs and I saw my first vagina, I puked all over her. We obviously didn’t have sex after that.
I finally did it when I was 20. It was with a babe I’d been dating and I tried to avoid eye contact with her vagina. It actually felt really great, until she randomly said “I am giving you everything, if you leave me I’ll kill you”
I freaked out and stopped. She tried to get me to continue, but I was already too weirded out. She then claimed I’d turned her into a whore, got dressed and left. The whole thing was just a messy first experience.
Dami, 22/Female/Straight
I’m not quite sure how I hoped my first time would turn out, but I knew I didn’t want it to be uncomfortable. At 19, most of my friends had already had sex, and their stories were horrifying.
I also knew I didn’t want it to be with a random person. I didn’t need it to be with a boyfriend, just someone I was comfortable with. I was prepared to wait however long for that, and that’s what I did.
When it finally happened, it was really good, but that wasn’t even the best part. That came days later when he asked me about the experience. He made me feel comfortable enough to talk about it without shame or guilt.
Simon, 22/Male/ Gay
I grew up on Disney and romance novels, so I expected my first time to be magical. I also assumed that whoever I had my first time with would always be special to me Now, I have him blocked because he kept calling me.
I was 15 when it happened, and it was meh. It hurt. It was extra annoying because the guy had been going on and on about his sexual prowess. He was 19, so I believed him. I just ended up laying there until it was over.
Deola, 24/Female/Lesbian
I knew from a pretty young age that I was attracted to only women, but I still struggled with fully accepting that part of myself. So, I was never able to really imagine myself having sex with a woman.
It eventually happened when I was 17. It was with a friend, and it was awful. I worked myself up so much that I ended up having a panic attack while she was going down on me. Thankfully, she was very understanding.
Chidi, 27/Male/Straight
I wasn’t a particularly horny teenager, so I had never really thought about how I wanted my first time to be. So much so that when it finally happened, I was completely unprepared and had no clue what to expect.
It happened when I turned 19. My girlfriend at the time had just broken up with me, so I was at a party I was hosting getting sad drunk. A friend found me alone in my room, comforted me and left to call my ex.
A few hours later, she turned up. We hashed out our issues, apologised and she just climbed on top of me. She was a virgin too, so it hurt her, but she kept going until she couldn’t anymore. We tried again that night, and it was wild.
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Have you tried all your best to please a Nigerian man? We’re not sure of that, because if you have tried all your best then you won’t be reading this post. But there is no shame there. You want to learn how to keep a man and we are here to help you out. When the wedding date has been fixed, send us an invite.
1. Be prepared.
That is, be prepared to be his girlfriend, mother, nanny, cook, slave, cleaner, accountant, stylist, manager, hygiene monitor, etc. But never forget to acknowledge him as the head while you do this. Look ehn, (a lot of) Nigerian men are big babies. When they decide to get a girlfriend, they usually need someone who can be plenty things at once. They won’t tell you this though. So the earlier you know it, the better it is for you.
2. When in bed with a Nigerian man, this is what you should do.
Scream like someone who is being delivered from a great demon. Shout, yell, tell him to destroy you with that pestle between his legs. Basically, stroke his ego. And once you get out of bed, flip the switch immediately. Get into prude mode ASAP. You know, holy sister style. Act like you’ve never heard of sex at all. Act like the very thought of sex disgusts you. Slut and saint combined—Nigerian men like a woman who can do it all.
3. You should allow your man to cheat on you.
It’s okay for him to thirst after other babes on Twitter, send his penis in the DM, or even sleep with them. Listen dear, men cannot eat one food all their lives. They need to change tste. You are yam, let him go after moi-moi and ofe nsala. But NEVER EVER attempt it as a woman. A key that can open all doors is a master key. But a door that can be opened by all keys nko? That one is a harlot door.
4. Never let a man know that you have a dildo.
You will make him feel small, diminish the great importance of his magnificent penis. A dildo will give you orgasm, yes. Ordinary orgasm. Can a dildo kiss you? Can a dildo press your breasts or grab your bumbum against your wish? Can a dildo call you ashawo when you refuse to date him? Can a dildo make you cry when it breaks your heart? No. Which is why Nigerian men are better. And Nigerian men are cheap too. Just cook for them and you have their destiny.
NB: That’s a turning stick, not a dildo. Yes, I know. I don’t want the men reading this post to feel threatened.
5. Always look pretty.
Go to bed in your bra and full bridal make-up. Wear a waist-trainer to the bathroom. Brush with your lipstick on. Live and die in the gym. Just stay sexy for your man. It’s okay if your man looks like 3 Tiger batteries stacked on top of each other. It doesn’t even matter if he looks like something that crawled out of an Abule Egba dustbin. The thing is this: because he’s a man, he will always be wanted. Shebi you know that men are scarce commodities.
October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month. An annual campaign happens in this month to increase awareness of the disease.
So we are here to educate you on a few things you should know about boobs aka breasts.
1. You can get a degree in Bra Studies from Hong Kong.
Women will agree that we need more innovative brassieres. So, this degree is a legit one. China’s biggest lingerie manufacturer, Top Form, has a bra lab at its factory. The company makes more than bras for well-known labels, including Victoria’s Secret, Playtex and Maidenform.
2. No two boobs are the same.
Just like no two things are equal in the world, a pair of boobs are not identical. Also the left boob is bigger than the right in most women.
3. Almost all boobs have stray hairs.
So if you dislike hair, you might want to whip out hose tweezers and go a-hunting.
4. There are about 8 different types of nipples.
Nipples can either be normal, flat, puffy, or inverted. What type are yours? Go here to find out and keep it to yourself. It’s for your personal consumption.
5. Breast cancer isn’t only hereditary.
Though breast cancer can be in one’s family history, it can also be triggered by the environment and what we eat, being overweight or obese, birth control, alcohol, etc.
6. Regular self breast exam is necessary.
Regular self examination and testing when abnormalities are discovered are required. Early detection have saved the lives of many women.
7. Breast cancer doesn’t happen only in women.
Contrary to popular believe, breast cancer doesn’t only happen in women, but in men as well. Men have boobs too so like women, men have to perform a breast self exam.
8. Men can also lactate.
Certain types of cancer treatments can cause lactation in men.
9. Cancer isn’t the end of the world.
With large strides being made in managing cancer and research going into discovering the cure, there are ways to living with the disease.
Women that had a mastectomy can get breast implants, chemotherapy to control cancer causing cells, etc.
All in all, we should all try our best to have a healthy lifestyle and take care of our environment. It begins with us.
