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  • 5 Nigerian Men Share What It’s Like to Navigate Sex With Erectile Dysfunction

    Erectile dysfunction (ED) is a common sexual concern for men, especially older men prone to cardiovascular diseases and medications with side effects that affect sexual performance.

    For men’s health awareness month, I spoke with five men who share what it’s like to keep their sexual lives active despite their challenges with erectile dysfunction.

    Five Nigerian Men Share What It’s Like To Navigate Sex with Erectile Dysfunction

    Johnson*, 45

    I was diagnosed with stage two hypertension after I turned 40 and have been on blood pressure medication ever since. A major side effect is erectile dysfunction. I initially stopped taking the drugs after I noticed because I couldn’t stand not enjoying sex with my wife. However, she was more concerned about my health and insisted we return to the doctor to ask if other medications could be considered. My medication has been changed a couple of times, but it’s been the same. Now that my erection isn’t like it used to be, we’ve incorporated a lot more foreplay into lovemaking. It wasn’t like we didn’t do foreplay before, but now that’s what we focus on more. On some days when the erection surprises us both, we have penetrative sex. I’ve suggested buying sex toys, but my wife wouldn’t hear of it. She’s fine with the foreplay, and I can’t complain.

    Ademola*, 50

    I’ve been managing erectile dysfunction for more than 15 years now. It got in the way of my sexual life in the early years because my wife and I didn’t know much outside of regular “missionary sex”. However, things changed after we attended a couples’ retreat. The retreat had a session for sex education for couples, and we were keen to attend because we both knew of my condition. It was at that retreat that we learnt more about how to spice up our sexual life outside of penetrative sex, including the use of adult toys. The strap-on toy has really helped; I don’t have to worry about a weak erection or going limp during sex.

    Hassan*, 43

    The sex hasn’t been the same with my wife since we were both diagnosed with cardiovascular diseases. Before I was placed on medications, I’d noticed my erection wasn’t like it used to be. Even though my wife didn’t think it was much of an issue, I was bothered. She was more concerned about our general health, and I kept reminding her that sex is also an important part of our health. I spoke with some of my friends, and I learned that some of them faced similar challenges. I guess it’s one of the downsides of ageing. Now, I use prescribed medication to control ED, but I also do lots of exercises to keep my testosterone levels up. My doctor also advised taking lots of watermelon before sex, and it helps.

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    Ibrahim*, 30

    I was diagnosed with bilateral hydrocele—a swelling of both scrotums—when I was 10 and had to undergo surgery. The swelling returned when I was in senior secondary school, and it affected my erection. I could barely get my penis up, and I was always in so much pain. I had another set of surgeries when I was in 100 level. After the surgery, I noticed my erection was always in the semi-solid range. I complained to the doctors and was placed on some medications, but they don’t seem to help that much. When the medications do work, and the erection is strong enough, I feel pain in my scrotum.

    The whole experience made me avoid relationships for the longest time because I lived with the constant worry that I couldn’t sexually satisfy my partner. I’ve had breakups caused by my inability to satisfy sexual desires; they wanted more than foreplay and all the other sexual gimmicks. After that, I resolved to seek out someone who wasn’t so keen on sex. When my current partner mentioned she was asexual, I was more than relieved. Our sex life is perfect because we both have tailored expectations.

    Ibrahim*, 32

    One of the hardest parts of getting diagnosed with HBP was learning that the drugs could affect my erection. The doctor wasn’t really nice about it either. When I told him my dick wasn’t as hard as it used to be, he said, “You have to pick one between your health and your erection.” I didn’t even know what to say. The treatment was supposed to be temporary, but after some checkups, my BP wasn’t down, and the doctor said I should keep to the medication. I still take the drugs, but I always stop when I’m planning to have penetrative sex. So, if I want to have sex on Friday, I stop taking the drugs on Tuesday or Wednesday. I know this isn’t ideal, but that’s how I’ve been managing it.

    Read this next: 4 Nigerian Men Talk About Their Experiences With Sexual Enhancers

    Adeyinka Odutuyo

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  • 7 Things To Do After Having Unprotected Sex

    Sometimes you might have used a condom and it broke or forgotten to use one, don’t panic, here’s what to do after having unprotected sex.

    P.s: This shouldn’t stop you from seeking out professional help.

    1. Pee within 30 minutes

    Peeing after sex is very important. Sometimes, your bladder might feel empty but still go to the bathroom, you’d be surprised. Peeing helps flush out any bacteria which could cause an infection you might have been exposed to during sex. Remember that peeing won’t remove the risk of pregnancy.

    2. Do not douche, do wash up

    In your panic thinking about what to do after having unprotected sex, always remember that your genital’s do not need a thorough cleanse after sexual activities. While washing or douching might make you feel more comfortable, vaginal or anal douching can put you at increased risk of infection because douching products can irritate.

    3. Check in with yourself

    Make sure you make space to check in with yourself and your partner if need be. It’s okay to feel worried, angry or sad after having unprotected sex. You don’t have to deal with the burden of this, talk to friends or family about it so they support and you. If you aren’t comfortable speaking to anyone you know, consider talking to an expert. 

    4. Take the emergency contraceptive pill

     Emergency contraceptives need to be taken within 72 hours of sex without a condom. It’s vital to take preventive medication for HIV within the same timeframe. The sooner you take it, the better. Make an appointment at Family Planning or with your doctor as soon as possible.

    5. Get checked for STIs two weeks after

    Unusual discharge and pain when urinating are common symptoms of both gonorrhoea and chlamydia, also look out for bleeding after sex and between periods. This is one of the most important things to do after having unprotected sex. So,  get tested, remember that it is treatable and avoid having sex until the infection clears up.

    6. Do a pregnancy test three weeks after

    Even after taking all these precautions, if you are convinced you might be pregnant, take the test after three weeks. As pregnancy tests work by detecting a hormone called human chorionic gonadotropin. It can take a while for enough HCG to build up in your body, so you should wait to take a test until 3 weeks after sex. If your test is positive, book an appointment with a professional to discuss your options.

    7. Make sure you use contraceptives next time

    Next time you’re thinking about what to do after having unprotected sex, remember that there are long-lasting contraceptives like the IUD and implant that are effective at preventing unintended pregnancies and they last for 3 to 10 years. Using a condom plus your regular method of contraception will help protect you from unintended pregnancies and STIs. Stay safe.

    Malakai Bassey

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  • QUIZ: Only Sexperts Can Make It To The End Of This Steamy Trivia

    Remember once you get a question wrong, the quiz ends. Let’s see how far you’ll go.

    Take the quiz:

    Approximately how many nerve endings does the clitoris have?

    Miriam Onyemenam

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  • How to Make a Man Cry in Bed

    When it comes to making a man cry in bed, there are many things you can do to make that happen. If you are looking to make things so hot during sex that your man sheds tears of ecstasy, here’s a detailed guide on how to make a man cry in bed.

    Call out his name often

    Weirdly enough, one of the many things men like to hear during sex is their name.  Call out his name seductively when you like something sexual that he’s doing to you.  Please remember the exact name of the person you are sleeping with oh. Before you call out someone else’s name.

    Talk to him

    man's head in lady's bosom as lady holds his head

    There is nothing as sexy as hearing each other moan,sigh, and demand what you want/how you want it. It guarantees equal pleasure for you both. Also, whispering naughty words in his ears can be a huge turn on. Do with this information what you must.

    Play with his ears

    lady playing with mans ear

    Bite it playfully or just gently tug at it. You can also just moan or sigh in his ears.  The ears can be an erogenous zone so if you want the sex to be memorable for him, you should definitely do this.

    Give his neck attention

    lady kissing mans neck as he smiles

    Start with slow kisses to let him know that you want him. Start from the base of his ears and work your way down. you can bite his neck softly as you inch down. Alternate between kisses and biting so he doesn’t know what’s coming next.

    Look for his sensitive spots

    man and lady in black briefs, standing with lady holding mans chest from behind

    If you want to know how to make a man cry in bed, you must be intentional about pleasing him sexually.
     
    Men have so many erogenous zones that don’t get love mostly because the men are too shy to ask their partners for that. Nipples are one of those spots. Pay attention to it. Just do what he’d do to you. 

    Kiss his thighs

    Plant light kisses from above his knees and work your way up increasing the pressure of your lips as you go. Remember that men like foreplay too.

    Give him a massage

    lady massaging man

    Straddle him and give him a massage, replacing your hands with your mouth and tongue. This should make for an interesting experience for him.

    Try new temperatures

    Introduce new things in the bedroom, like ice, candles made for the skin, food like whipped cream, etc.

    Relax

    It won’t always go smoothly. Sex between two people who aren’t acting to make money can not be perfect. Relax, laugh, and make jokes. Just enjoy yourselves.

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    If you liked this article, you would love “How to Make a Woman Cry in Bed“

    Malakai Bassey

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  • QUIZ: Only Sex Experts Can Score 9/11 On This Sex Myth Quiz

    Sex education is pretty non-existent in Nigeria, yet people are having sex. We decided to debunk a few myths around sex so more young people can stay safe.

    See how you perform below:


    Hassan Yahaya

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  • 7 Nigerian Women Talk About Receiving Sex Education

    Do you remember when you received sex education? Was it in school taught by your biology teacher or at home, your mum telling you to stay away from sex in the middle of the night? In this article, we asked seven Nigerian women to share their experience receiving sex education. Here’s what they had to say.

    Nneka, 24 

    My mum taught me sex education one night when I was 12. We were very close because I am her only girl child. That night, she woke me up to say she had something important to tell me. She showed me images of the reproductive system. She was quite detailed — she talked about being attracted to the opposite sex, menstruation and the act of sexual intercourse. 

    She told me if my hymen breaks, it means I’m no longer a virgin. She said it’s normal to like boys but engaging in sexual relations at my age was wrong, which is why most mothers don’t allow their daughters to have boyfriends. She said when I was ready I would know because it will feel right. 

    The next day, she had a meeting with me and my junior brothers. She talked about the same things with them too. She even gave us a book to read — I don’t remember the title but it was sex education. After that day, she continued to remind us about what she told us. 

    Imabong, 20

    Nobody told me anything — I just knew. Growing up, adults believed we should know without being told. That’s bullshit if you ask me. When I started menstruating, my older sister told me never to go close to a boy. If not, I would get pregnant. To date, my mum has never asked me questions about my sex life. If she ever tries, it will be an awkward conversation.  

    Soyaya, 37 

    My mother gave me EVERY WOMAN when I was eight. She told me about periods, pregnancy, sex and everything I could understand at that age. I was the fifth girl she raised so she had perfected the system by then. She also let me watch risque movies so I could ask questions if I had any. In the end, I didn’t have sex till I was in my mid-20s while my friends, who were scared into it or left in silence were having sex from age 15. She is very forward-thinking for a northerner raised in the 1960s. 

    Omosi, 18

    I was 9 when my mother gave me the talk — that’s what she calls it till today. She explained what it means to have sex. She talked about intimate parts of my body. I had just started secondary school. She also told me that boys are stupid. LOL. 

    Tareke, 22

    I was taught sex education in a home economics class. I was in primary 6 at the time. I think the topic was initially puberty. She described sex, and she told us about condoms. She also told us what age a girl can get pregnant. To be honest, she did not give a lot of details. 

    Favour, 25

    Growing up, sex and all sex-related things were considered a sin in my house. We were not to speak of it ever. The things I knew I learnt from Basic Science classes, movies or my friend, Maureen. She was two years older than me. She indirectly educated me on a lot of things. 

    The first time my mum came close to giving me sex education was when I got admission into the university. She said “Don’t talk to boys when you get there. Don’t even greet them. They just want to useless you.” That was all she said. 

    Jojo, 26 

    When I was ten, my mum sat me down to explain periods. She taught me how to count my period and then she taught me about sex. She explained how having sex can affect your periods. She didn’t sugar coat anything as she spoke. She said sex felt good, but it would feel better when I was older. She made me look forward to sex. 

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    Answer the questions in this quiz and we’ll tell you when next you’ll have sex.

    Mariam Sule

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  • The Nigerian Parent’s Guide To ‘Sex Education’

    Here’s a detailed guide on how to educate your future children about sex like your Nigerian parents did. From ignoring the existence of sex altogether to making them too scared to bring it up, this should ensure your child learns everything they need to know from porn.

    1. NEVER directly talk about sex with your children.

    If they’ve never heard about sex, it’s only logical that they will never have it? Abi? Simpu!

    2. Make sure they are so uncomfortable around you that they never bring up sex.

    This is not a Hollywood film. You and your children are not friends.

    3. If that doesn’t work and they start asking too many questions, just give them this look:

    This ‘Nigerian mother face’ will stop them dead in their tracks.

    4. Repeatedly warn them about the dangers of any kind of interaction with the opposite sex.

    They shouldn’t even breathe near them.

    5. Just assume every member of the opposite sex they talk to is their boyfriend or girlfriend.

    We all know men and women can never JUST be friends.

    6. Ban them from going out until they are old, then constantly ask why they are still single.

    You know they can never have sex if they are ALWAYS at home.

    7. Always remind your daughter that if a man touches her, she will get pregnant.

    Also remind her that if she gets pregnant she will die.

    8. Make sure your son knows that if he gets a girl pregnant, his only option is to marry her.

    Remind him every other day.

    9. Leave any and all forms of actual ‘sex education’ to their biology teacher.

    Why else are you now paying school fees?

    10. You should always remind them to ‘face their book’ and nothing else.

    They cannot be facing book and having sex at the same time. It’s scientifically impossible.

    11. Whenever a sex scene comes up in a movie, remember to shout at them.

    That way your children know that human contact is of the devil.

    12. Never talk to them about safe sex, before they think they are allowed to have sex.

    Safe sex is for people having sex abi? So, why should they know about it?

    13. Wait till they have moved out and are gainfully employed before finally having the sex talk.

    If you can wait till their wedding night sef, it’s even better.

    NerdEfiko

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  • 5 Types of Sex Education Nigerian Parents Give

    Somethings never change in African homes. For example, the strict list of taboos that never gets revised with topics like sex, atheism and cohabitation occupying space on them. Decades later and sex is still a word you cannot say with your chest when your Nigerian parents are within a one mile radius no matter what you scored on our How Good Are You In Bed Quiz. Inside life.

    Since the subject itself is a taboo that chances of you getting an actual sex education from your parents are zero to zero. But if you did get one, they most likely sounded like something from this list;

    1. Exaggerated lies.

    zikoko- Sex Education Nigerian Parents Give

    Example: If a man touches, you you will get pregnant. I don’t know why we ever believed this as kids because it makes so little sense. After struggling to get a C in biology and attending the reproduction class we go back home to believe that pregnancy happens by touch.

    2. Take you for deliverance when they see you being inappropriate.

    If they catch you masturbating or playing nonsense play with the opposite sex you earn a ticket to a vigorous deliverance session with the family pastor. And some counselling afterwards.

    3. Beat the shit out of you when they see you talking to the opposite sex.

    zikoko- Sex Education Nigerian Parents Give

    Because Nigerian parents are not in the business of sparing the rod. Matter of fact according to the Nigerian parenting guide, the rod is one of the most recommended and potent parenting tool and they never fail to whip it out to share some nuggets.

    4. Give you a very very awkward speech basically preaching abstinence.

    zikoko- Sex Education Nigerian Parents Give

    Complete with sufficient and explicit Bible verses promising the wrath of God and a permanent bed space in hellfire for anyone who fails to comply.

    5. Nothing.

    Yeap, most of them don’t even bother. They figure you can’t do what you don’t know so why bother giving you ammunition for a war they never think you will fight?

    What kind of sex education did you get from your Nigerian parents?

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    Blessing Onyelobi

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  • Brace yourself, brothers and sisters.

    For what you are about to witness will (or should) forever change your perspective on bumping uglies with strange people. If you don’t know them well enough to be able to ask for STD test results, they’re strange.

    Now, we know body no be firewood.

    But before you go and meet that sweet boy or sweet girl, better find out their status. Ask to see the results, even. Some people have horrible STDs. Our ancestors call unwanted and unexpected ‘gifts’ like that ‘double wahala.’ Be advised.

    First off, sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) are the literal worst.

    STDs are infections/diseases caused by having sexual contact with infected people either through oral, anal or/& vaginal intercourse. Most STDs show no symptoms and may last for years which is additionally scary. By the time it shows symptoms, a great deal of damage could have been done.

    Most of them are curable, but there are a few that can only be managed.

    Those are the ones we’re focusing on today. The manageable ones. They are unsightly, painful, expensive and potentially deadly. Infected people have to depend on medicine to suppress symptoms for the remainder of their life, or until scientists figure out a cure.

    So stay woke.

    Gonorrhea is one of the most common STDs in Nigeria. In fact, a study done by WHO showed that Lagos in 1963 had the highest gonorrhea rate in the world! It’s most common among young people between 15 to 24 and it infects parts of the body that are warm and moist eg the eyes, mouth, urethra, vagina, anus etc. Oddly enough, gonorrhea used to have a complete cure, but the infection-causing bacterium Neisseria gonorrhea has become resistant.

    Symptoms:

    Gonorrhea can cause rectal infections, anal itching, sores, discharge or bleeding. It’s pretty nasty. If treatment doesn’t start right away, it can have dire consequences such as obstruction of the fallopian tubes, infertility and ectopic pregnancy. Men may feel pain in their testicles, and be unable to father a child.

    These are sexually transmitted diseases that lead to liver inflammation and, in serious cases, to death.  There is no cure for hepatitis A & B, however, there is a vaccine for these two types and your body usually clears both Hepatitis A and Hepatitis B within a few months. Unfortunately, some people end up with chronic Hepatitis B, which means their body didn’t get rid of it within six months. At this stage, you can only take medication to slow down the liver damage.

    Symptoms:

    When Hepatitis is contracted, first symptoms can include a general feeling of unwell, vomiting, nausea,  fever and dark-coloured urine.  In serious cases, Hepatitis develops into cirrhosis and can lead to liver cancer.

    This is a viral infection that is passed through skin-to-skin contact. Most people get HPV through direct sexual contact, such as oral sex. It can affect your mouth, genitals or throat, giving you warts. Warts associated with most HPV infections go away on their own, but the virus remains in the infected person’s body. As a result, that person may still pass HPV to sexual partners.

    Symptoms:

    When the virus doesn’t go away on its own, it’s a big problem. Complications include genital warts and warts in the throat. HPV may also cause cervical cancer and cancers of the genitals, head, neck, and throat. However, the types of HPV that cause warts are different from the types that cause cancer.

    Herpes is a viral infection characterized by periodic outbreaks of painful sores. It can be contracted through sex, kissing or touching an affected area. Although condoms can prevent herpes transmission during intercourse, oral contact with genitals or open sores anywhere can spread the disease.

    Symptoms:

    Herpes usually shows up as cold sores or blisters. Symptoms can also include pain when urinating, lower back pain, flu-like symptoms and a burning sensation in the genitals. Small red bumps may also appear around the genitals or on the mouth.

    Bottom line

    Nobody likes living with STDs of any kind. The good news is, if you have any of these STDs, they can be managed well with modern medicine. Don’t beat yourself up about it. If you don’t have any STDs, take care to keep it that way. It is important to choose your sexual partners very carefully and use protection. Abstinence, however, remains the best way to protect yourself.

    Sade

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  • We came to the conclusion a very long time ago that the reason Nigeria is so hot is that you people are fornicating.

    We’ve been begging you people to stop and you have refused. Since you insist on fornicating you might as well educate yourself on the different kinds of contraceptive options you can use to avoid unplanned pregnancies, and no it’s not just condoms and “pulling out”.

    We should make it clear that although all of these contraceptive options prevent pregnancy they won’t prevent STDs and STIs so better go and get tested with the person you are fornicating with.

    And this isn’t just for you fornicators. Newlyweds and married couples who are having sex at the exact time the good Lord intended but aren’t ready to have kids yet need to read this too.

    Unfortunately because the science around the invention of most contraception methods is sexist all of these contraception options can only be used by women.

    The good news, however, is that a lot of the side effects women have been made to believe these contraception options have, either don’t exist or are over exaggerated. But don’t take our word for it, always always talk to your doctor and your partner before deciding on the most suitable option for you.

    There is the most popular option after condoms which is ‘The Pill’

    The pill works by stopping ovulation. No ovulation means there is no egg to be fertilized by the sperm when you have sex, which means no belle. Here are a couple of things about the pill you should know. First of all, it won’t affect your fertility when you do decide to start having kids. Secondly, it doesn’t cause cancer. Lastly, although a handful of women might experience weight gain as a side effect of being on the pill, this is rarely the case for a majority of the women on it.

    Plan B or ‘The Morning After’

    Most pharmacies here in Nigeria carry the brand name – Postinor 2. For some reason, Nigerians love to turn up their nose at this but it’s really your best bet whenever you have a slip up like a condom tear or when his ‘pull out’ method fails. It’s important to note that ‘Plan B’ is an emergency contraceptive, which is not meant for daily or regular use.

    IUD

    IUD stands for Intrauterine Device and it’s basically a plastic and copper device put into your uterus through your vagina to prevent pregnancy. The process of inserting the IUD is a whole lot easier and painless than it sounds. Although IUDs are very unpopular amongst Nigerian women but the fact that it doesn’t mess with your hormones and lasts for years makes it a very suitable option.

    The Patch

    The patch works similarly to the pill by delivering hormones through your skin that’ll help prevent pregnancy, except that instead of using it daily you need to change it every week. Which in some way makes it a little more convenient than the pill.

    Contraceptive Implant

    Implants are two really tiny rods usually inserted on the inside of your upper arm which slowly releases progestogen into your body to prevent you from getting pregnant. It lasts from 2 to 5 years, which makes it a great long-term contraceptive option

    That’s about it. If you know of any SAFE contraceptive options we left out, please let us know.

    Having a baba that gives you something to drink to block pregnancy and infections doesn’t count, please.

    Toketemu Ohwovoriole

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  • 1. This is how the students react when it is announced that there will be sex education classes coming up.

    Giggles all around.

    2. This is everyone in class when the sex ed class starts and the teacher says the word “sex” for the first time.

    Violent giggles all around.

    3. When the sex ed teacher proceeds to explain sexual intercourse in graphic detail like the students don’t already know.

    GIGGLES!!!!!!!

    4. When the sex ed teacher points at a boy and girl and uses them for an example.

    AHHHH!!!!

    5. This is how all the girls in class look at the boys when the topic of unwanted pregnancy comes up.

    You better stay where you are.

    6. This is how the class reacts when STDs are mentioned.

    “LOL! What kind of name is Staphylococcus??”

    7. This is the class when the STDs are properly explained with symptoms and are shown pictures of what the symptoms look like.

    EWWWWW!!! TF?!

    8. This is the teacher when the topic of contraceptives come up and the students start naming the different types.

    “Hian! These children know more than me sha!”

    9. The teacher’s face when he/she starts to explain condoms but the students have already started listing off the different brands.

    This is the point where the teacher realizes that the students probably don’t need this sex ed class.

    10. The students, when the time comes to explain how to properly wear a condom.

    *muffled laughs*

    11. The students’ faces when the teacher attempts to mention abstinence.

    Loooool. Let’s not deceive ourselves.

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