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What to Do When You’ve Run Out of Things to Say to Your Partner

We don’t talk about this often, but one of the things that make relationships stressful is running out of things to say to your partner. When you speak to a particular person every day for many hours, there’s the tendency that you may run out of things to say. It’s even worse if you live together.

When that happens, this is what to do:

Talk about Mercury retrograde, and when it’s coming back

Mercury is constantly moving around. If you’re looking for what to talk about, ask your partner when you think it’s coming back. And why it can’t seem to stay in one place.

Ask them what would happen if you became a cockroach

See, it’s essential to know these things before you turn into a cockroach one day and they dump you. Bring it up now and find out if the love is real.

Don’t talk

Just enjoy the silence. They say if you can’t sit with your partner in silence, the relationship won’t last (I don’t know who said it, don’t ask me). If you’ve run out of things to say to each other, just don’t talk for a few days.

ALSO READ: Is It Love If You Don’t Talk to Your Partner Every Day?

Ghost

If you and your partner no longer have things to discuss, the relationship has expired; the battery has died. Ghost them and move on to the next one. There’s no time to waste time, please.

Ask for the password to their phone

This is a very interesting conversation starter. Because the next thing they’ll likely say after you ask is, “Why?” And that’s how argument will start. Except you have a normal trusting relationship where your partner has nothing to hide. Then you’re back to not having anything to talk about.

Take Zikoko quizzes together

In fact, this should have been number one because so many conversations can arise from taking Zikoko quizzes. Imagine taking a quiz about who cheats in the relationship. That’s bound to start an exciting discussion.

QUIZ: How Often Do You Cheat In Relationships?

Ask them if they’ve eaten

Apparently, “Have you eaten?” is a steady conversation saver. It’s the second to the last thing you bring up before you start talking about the weather.

Talk about other people’s relationships

If there’s one thing that brings friends and couples together, it’s gossip. Talk about other couples and maybe include how their relationship isn’t as good as yours. That may not be true, but at least it has gotten you and your partner talking.

ALSO READ: The 9 Things We Don’t Like About Being in Relationships

Dammy Eneli

October 9, 2022

Ships

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7 Nigerian Women Talk About Dating an Igbo Man

Much like Yoruba men, Igbo men have built a reputation in the Nigerian dating scene. But because we like to bring you only original and unfiltered gist we decided to ask some women who have dated Igbo men and here’s what they told us;

Ogonna, 26- He believed money could solve every problem.

They are mostly core traditional men and our values conflicted. One believed that money could solve every problem, so he could stand you up, send you money and expect the money to give you amnesia. They think there’s something wrong with showing emotions, so they don’t want to bother you with their struggles because you may think them weak.

Vivian, 27 – It was so good I ended up marrying him.

It was so good I ended up marrying him and I have never had a reason to question the decision. I know Igbo men have a reputation for being controlling and all but I think it’s a function of tribe. Generalisations are silly.

Nelly, 23 – Things changed when i started earning more than him.

He was a great guy and the relationship was one of my best at first. But things started to take a sour turn when I started earning more than him. I guess he felt threatened in some way.

Ivie, 30 – It was not pleasant.

It was not pleasant, as an Edo woman, they always came up with the excuse of tribe. Dated one for 6 years and his mother disapproved and that was the end.

Dora, 25 – He couldn’t overcome his sexist ways.

I’ve dated five Igbo men. Three were great. The other two were assholes. The last one was the sweetest. He was huge and confident, unafraid to show his love for me in public. Always wanted to go out. He cooked for me, bought me gifts, pulled up to take me for drives around town. We had the hottest public sex then. It had to end however because he couldn’t overcome his sexist ways even though he was better without them. I guess that’s something the next generation of Igbo men need help with.

Chiamaka, 26 – They treated me like I was a baby.

They treated me like I was a baby literally. Maybe cos they were always 10 years older. So, it was a nice time. Still is.

Chidera, 25- The best boyfriend I ever had was Igbo.

The best boyfriend I ever had was Igbo. He was a good guy. Genuinely cared about me and everything I was doing. Wanted to know how I was faring and what I was up to with my career. It’s the best relationship I ever had.

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Blessing Onyelobi

April 10, 2020

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9 Ways To Get Over Your Nigerian Ex-Boyfriend

Ending a relationship is one thing, but moving on from it is like on the next page. Sometimes you get so caught up in the hurt that moving on starts seeming impossible. We’re here to help you get past this tough phase. Here are 10 fun ways to get over your Nigerian ex boyfriend.

1. Kindly ask him to return your mumu button.

Chances are that he would not, maybe because he has misplaced it or he sold it to buy sharwama. In the event of that keep reading, we’ll get you through this one way or another.

2. Don’t ignore the hurt.

And don’t tell yourself you should not be feeling hurt. Your feelings are valid. Feel the pain, but don’t let it make you bitter.

3. Reach out to your girlfriends.

Now is the time to call in your girl squad and have some fun with them. You need your support system around you and chilling with your favorite girls will do the trick.

4. Keep your self busy.

Find something fun to keep yourself busy with. It could be a new hobby like going to the gym, learning a skill you have always been interested in or just pouring yourself into work.

5. Mute or Block him.

If you can’t handle seeing him all over your timeline then by all means mute or block him. This is not you being petty, this is you putting your mental health first and acting in your best interest.

6. Return his stuff.

Yes boo. You need to give back all the mushy sentimental things you are holding on to. They will only remind you of him and make it harder for you to move on.

7. Binge watch old Nollywood movies with their ridiculous plot lines.

If not for anything, at least to get a good laugh.

8. Write about your feelings.

Writing about your feelings can be very therapeutic. It’s like giving yourself an outlet to vent and rant about how you are feeling and possibly make sense of it. You can get a journal if you want it to be private.

9. Have some Me time.

Now is the time to date yourself/hang out with yourself. The beautiful thing about being alone is that you get to spend time with yourself. You get to reflect about your life and the choices you make.

10. Give yourself time to heal.

zikoko- getting over your nigerian ex

It may take a little longer than the books say, but you will heal eventually. And this will be a phase you will look back on and probably even make jokes about. But for now, don’t put yourself on any timer.

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Blessing Onyelobi

April 6, 2020

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