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  • 5 Nigerian Women On Being Helped By Random Women

    5 Nigerian Women On Being Helped By Random Women

    Random acts of kindness are a good pick-me-up for bad days. In this article, five Nigerian women share their stories where random women were kind to them.

    Bimbo, 23

    When I gained admission into the University, I was supposed to stay with my aunt for a while. It was the second time I was going to her house — the first time was when I went for my post UTME. I missed my bus stop on my way to her house and the cab driver dropped me somewhere I did not recognize. My phone was dead so there was no way to reach out to my aunt. 

    Luckily, I remembered the name of the school in front of her house. I tried to ask the people around where I was for directions to the school, but no one answered me. They didn’t even want to help me charge my phone either. I was about to give up when I saw this woman waiting for a bike. I walked up to her and asked for directions. After explaining to her, she called a bike for me and paid my fare. When I got to my aunt’s house, I was sad I didn’t take her number. 

    Karen, 21

    One day when I was in 100 level, I went to school for tutorials. I didn’t know I was on my period, and I was wearing a yellow skirt. I got up from my seat to talk to my friend and this girl walked up to me. She whispered in my ear that my skirt was terribly stained with blood. I thought it was sweet of her to tell me because no one else told me. I still see her in school, but I’m not sure she remembers me. 

    Ada, 24

    In July, I was rushing to school for a class and didn’t realize that I had forgotten my wallet until I reached my bus stop. I was so embarrassed. I asked the girl beside me to pay, and I would transfer to her. She declined the transfer but she paid for my trip. I was so embarrassed. 

    Ife, 21

    My mum died when I was 13, so I had to learn about everything related to women on my own. In June this year, I noticed my underwear no longer fit so I went to buy new ones. At markets, I was sorting through the pile of pants the vendor gave me to choose from when a random woman said, “Aunty, those pants won’t size you o.” She showed me that I could check whether or not a pant would fit me by stretching its thighs. I felt so touched cause no one had ever told me that before.

    Muna, 21 

    During my first year of school, I got lost on my way to Owerri. It was raining heavily and I was unable to board a bus. Soon enough, it became dark. I had bags and it was obvious I was lost. Anyone could have taken advantage of me at that moment. 

    While I was standing there, one girl came to tell me it was unsafe to be there and I could get robbed. When I explained my situation to her, she asked me to follow her to her house. I had never done that before but something made me trust her. At her house, she hung my wet clothes, made me tea and gisted with me until I slept off on her bed.

    The next morning, she made me breakfast before I left. It was such a sweet thing to do for a stranger. 

    I was on my way to school for an exam last semster in a keke. We got to school and the driver didn’t have change for me and I couldn’t leave without paying him. A lady in the keke told me not to worry that she had already paid for me.

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  • 9 Small Kindness You’ll Experience In Any Buka

    9 Small Kindness You’ll Experience In Any Buka

    If you’re a regular at Bukas, chances are that you’ve experienced one of these:

    1) Getting extra fisi from your server.

    Real recognize real. Extra plantain or meat is a whole mood.

    2) When someone helps pour water to wash your hands in an Amala joint.

    It’s known that the best Amala joints don’t have functional taps and nothing beats the bonding between Amala brethren.

    3) The look you give when they add plenty plenty stew.

    Especially on rice!

    4) or when they call you customer.

    And ask after your whole family.

    5) When someone passes you cold water.

    Especially as you’re battling Ogunfe.

    6) The solidarity when a customer informs you that a particular stew is not sweet today.

    Whew!

    7) Or, they point you to the generous server.

    My G!

    8) That customer that helps you clear a table when your hands are full.

    The very best!

    9) After a sumptuous meal and someone passes you toothpick and napkin.

    This must be heaven. I can cry.

  • “Angels Among Us” Is The Good News You Need This Week, Despite The Coronavirus

    “Angels Among Us” Is The Good News You Need This Week, Despite The Coronavirus

    Imagine you were working in digital communications until you lost your job in late 2019.

    After losing your job, your wife delivers a baby. Complications from the delivery puts your family in a bad financial situation. You had to empty the family savings to pull through. Early this year, you start to drive Uber/Taxify to make ends meet. Your wife also starts a fashion outfit to support household income. 

    Then comes the coronavirus and the whole economy stops. You have to stop driving and your wife closes the shop because everyone has to stay at home. This lack of daily income further worsens your already bad financial situation. In all of this, there’s a baby that needs to be fed.

    This is the true-life story of one of the many Nigerians affected by the coronavirus pandemic.

    The coronavirus has paralysed economic activities in Nigeria resulting in the shut down of many businesses. This is as a result of a Government-ordered lockdown in two major cities — Abuja and Lagos — as part of its efforts to slow down the coronavirus. The implication of this is that many Nigerians, who live hand-to-mouth and rely on daily income, have suddenly found themselves in scary financial conditions.

    Their only hope right now is that they receive a donation from an Angel. Not a real-life Angel but one of the many Angels who are willing to help on the Angels Among Us website.

    Individuals and organisations have organised relief drives to help some of the people affected by the lockdown. This drive usually involves fundraising, buying of food, and distribution to those in need. Inspired by a need to also help out, the Angels Among Us idea was born. 

    What makes the Angels Among Us different is that it removes the need for a middle man who raises funds and distributes. Instead, it connects the helper directly with the person in need. Justin Irabor, the creator, says he chose this model because while looking for a way to help Nigerians during this crisis, he favoured a model that wasn’t limited by his personal time and capacity to disburse. That is how much time he had to spare to collect and share funds. “I wanted a solution beyond my personal limitations: an infinite pool of people helping an infinite amount of people without needing a middle man to drive the process,” he said. 

    Justin Irabor.

    When asked about the idea behind the name, Justin said: “I was inspired by the idea of supernatural beings living like human beings; taking danfo to work and back, eating, and doing regular stuff. So, after cycling through several names, I settled on Angels Among Us – because it brought back that image of regular people ascending to the status of angels as they helped people who didn’t even know them.” 

    Nigeria is a low trust society where people are raised to be wary of each other because everyone wants to get ahead of the other person. To prevent fraud and to increase trust, there’s a photo verification section. People who need help share a photo of themselves holding a piece of paper with their name and account details on it. And while he knows that this can be gamed, “most people don’t game it because they understand the binding principle here – honesty from the asker attracts kindness from the giver,” he said.

    In addition, they also verify that the name in the photo matches the bank account name supplied. There are also phone calls to people seeking help to get more context and verify more details. This process he says is handled by a network of volunteers (nicknamed ‘archangels’) working tirelessly. While they have verified a few hundred people so far, not everyone passes their process.

    “Very soon, there are plans to implement BVN verification through an established payment service provider and this will add another layer of security to the program,” he said.

    There are also plans to explore other methods of payment for people who do not have bank accounts. Work is ongoing to create a platform that can handle multiple payment types like Paga, O-pay, etc. But this may take a while.

    The best part of this project for him, has been discovering the kindness of people. He admits to being cynical by default so the kindness of people has been positively overwhelming. “Being able to write the software for this cause has also been satisfying,” he added.  

    “The reason I do interviews with publications like Zikoko is to encourage people to use the platform by building trust,” he said. “To increase transparency, I have also made myself more publicly accessible for questioning. There is also a Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ) page angelsamong.us/faq that addresses this skepticism. Furthermore, the team is setting up a communications unit (made up of volunteers) who will start sending reports and updates on what’s happening internally. We want to ensure accountability.” 

    In the age where social distancing is the rule, Justin understands something fundamental; If Nigerians hope to beat this illness, then we must band together and pull resources. This is because the effects of the virus on the economy are more familiar to many Nigerians than the novel virus itself. His ultimate aim is “to ensure that helping anyone affected by this pandemic is as easy as clicking a button.”


    If you would like to be a part of this initiative, you can either choose to donate by clicking here. Or by sharing this article with someone that can help. 

    Together, we can beat this!