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  • Why Do Nigerians Think Men Who Do These 6 Things Are Gay?

    You know how Nigerians are generally homophobic; any small thing and they’ll recoil and say “Ah yew a gay?” 

    First of all there’s nothing wrong with being gay. Second of all, there are some perfectly normal things homosexual and heterosexual men should be able to do without being labelled.

    If you do some of the things listed below, they either say you’re acting like a woman or that you’re “a gay.”

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    1. Skincare

    Men aren’t even allowed to have the most basic form of skincare apart from rubbing cream. If you own ordinary facial cleanser, people will pile on you to ask whether you’re a woman. To Nigerians, the end of skincare for men should be Irish Spring and Vaseline. 

    If you use sunscreen, scrubs and toner, that’s the end. Nigerians will probably call the police on you. Abeg, take care of your skin before you come out looking like harmattan victim.

    2. Pedicure/Manicure

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    Walking into a Nigerian salon for pedicure and manicure is like walking into the market naked. The women will look at you like you grew horns on your chest. Grooming your nails has nothing to do with your sexuality. That’s why your feet look like you were escorting the Israelites during their journey through the desert. Get a mani/pedi TODAY.

    3. Wearing body jewellery

    If you’ve managed to do the above things without being labelled as gay, Nigerians won’t let you escape this one. Wear an anklet and you are guaranteed to receive funny looks all day. In fact, anything more than wristwatch, chain and a ring is guaranteed to make you the center of attention. For Nigerians, multiple pieces of jewellery mean you’re “doing like woman”. If you wear waistbeads, forget it.

    4. Using lip balm

    You might wonder why so many people walk around with lips cracked like the dry Savannah plains of East Africa. Let me tell you why. It’s because Nigerians think men using lip balm is akin to them using lipstick and is, therefore, GAY. That’s why. 

    Please, please and please, endeavour to use lip balm. Your partner is too shy to tell you but I will tell you on their behalf. Take care of your lips.

    5. Snappy fashion sense

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    Nigerians love a fashion-savvy man. Just make sure you’re not *too* fashion-savvy. If you are, you’ll soon start to hear whispers of “Maybe he is a gay.” Shoutout to the gay fashion icons. Nigerians, people can dress well and not be gay.

    6. When they tell their bros “I love you”

    When you finish fighting for the above, this is the final boss level you must fight. If you tell your Nigerian male friend you love them, they begin to avoid you like a plague. The toxic masculinity is so strong, fathers don’t even say it their sons.

    Don’t tight the world to your chest. Relax small and tell your friends you love them. You will not die.

    You should probably read Are Nigerians Now More Accepting Of LGBT Rights? Idk sha.

  • Are Nigerians Now More Accepting Of LGBT Rights?

    Official reports place Nigeria’s population at over 200 million. Of these 200 million people 48.3% prescribe to Islam and 49.2% to Christianity. Both doctrines discourage same-sex relationships. A natural conclusion might be that 97.5% of Nigerians are conservative and therefore intolerant of homosexuality. But is that the case? Or are Nigerians more accepting of LGBT rights than we think? We took a look at two surveys conducted in 2017 and 2019 to find out.

    “Why are you gay?”

    Though offensive, the average Nigerian asking a homosexual this question may mean no offence. Homosexuality is a difficult concept for most Nigerians to understand. Is it innate? Something you are born with it? While a number of scientific studies suggest that being gay might be genetic, there has been no conclusive research to confirm that there is a biological reason behind being gay. There are also no conclusive studies to suggest that it’s a choice.

    The 2017 report from a series of surveys* conducted biennially, showed that  91% of Nigerians were of the opinion it was simply impossible for you to be born gay. That number has now dropped in 2019 to 89%. Could the drop be attributed to the ever-growing Millenial and Gen Z generation who have proven to be more accepting or does that number cut across all generations of Nigerians? While 2% might not seem like a significant number, in a country where 97.5% of its population is conservative, it’s a start.

    “Mum, Dad, I’m Gay”

    ‘Mum, Dad, I’m Gay’. This is the opening line for dozens of prank videos on Nigerian YouTube. This opening gambit plays on the fear and anger that most young Nigerians know to expect from the older generation. In real life scenarios, this cocktail of emotions often leads to violence, possible disownment and rejection of children who come out as homosexual to older generation parents.

    As young Nigerians become parents, YouTube hopefuls will have to come up with new video openers. Based on a recent survey, it turns out that Nigerian families are a lot more accepting of same-sex relationships than these videos will have you believe. The results from the aforementioned study show that 30% of Nigerians will accept a homosexual family member. A significant jump from the 13% number gotten from the same survey conducted in 2017. Respondents aged between 18 and 40 made up a greater part of the 30%, which shows that Millenials and Gen Z’s are more accepting of homosexual family members than their parents’ generation.

    Looking beyond the law                                

    In 2014, The Same Sex Marriage Prohibition Act, which criminalizes marriage, witnessing a marriage, registration of ‘gay clubs’ and public show of ‘amourous’ same-sex affection was signed into law. Any public show of affection between two people of the same sex was also banned and punishable with up to 10 years in prison.

    It’s been 5 years since the law was passed. While no official number exists, dozens of arrests have been made. In July 2017, a hotel in Lagos was raided and 42 men who claimed to be attending an HIV testing and counselling outreach programme were arrested and charged (without evidence) with the offence of performing homosexual acts on each other. In August 2018 another raid was reported in Lagos. This time 57 men attending a birthday party were arrested and again there was no evidence to back up the police charges.

    Despite the gloomy numbers above, there’s conclusive evidence that fewer people are currently in support of this law. 17% of respondents in a 2019 survey opposed the anti-same-sex law.

    How well do you know your neighbour?

    The most popular gay person you know is probably a celebrity, like Ellen Degeneres. You may also know Bisi Alimi, a Nollywood actor who was the first Nigerian man to come out on television in 2004 and has been a very vocal LGBT activist since then. So it’s unsurprising that 24% of Nigerians only know homosexual people who are famous. Only 19% of the respondents in the study said they personally knew someone who identified as a homosexual. Maybe it’s because we mind our business, or because many LGBT people in Nigeria do not feel safe disclosing their sexual orientation. As attitudes to the law change, it is expected that this percentage will increase.

    Are LGBT rights human rights?

    Have you ever thought about being shunned for your sexuality? Or living with the fear of being harassed, beaten, arrested or killed simply for being who you are? These are the realities of LGBT people in Nigeria today.

    Despite this, 70% of respondents in this study think this country would be a better place without homosexuals. 40% don’t mind them so long as they don’t have to see them. Let’s not even talk about their thoughts on same-sex marriages. Again gloomy numbers, but we must remember that in 2017, only 17% of the respondents thought homosexuals deserve the same rights as “regular” Nigerians. Today, that percentage has increased to 27%. These numbers indicate that Nigerians are gradually accepting the fact that LGBT rights are indeed human rights.

    So are Nigerians more accepting of LGBT rights in the year of Burna Boy and our baby boy National Assembly? Numbers show that acceptance is on the increase and this is important to our sense of humanity as a people. Change may not come in the form of marches and parades but in our attitudes and social acceptance of persons who are not exactly like us.

    *The surveys referred to in this article were conducted by The Initiative for Equal Rights (TIERs). You can find more on the results of this year’s survey here. TIERS is a Nigerian-based registered not-for-profit organisation working to protect and promote the human rights of sexual minorities nationally and regionally.

  • Nollywood Yoruba is breaking into the recent conversations surrounding homosexuality and it’s using one of it’s finest actors for the task. ‘Daudu’ sees Odunlade Adekola act the role of a cross-dresser, in what will probably be his most interesting role ever. Produced by Adesanya Adeshina and written by Adekola himself, the comedy traces the life of this seemingly gay man, who’s effeminate actions continue to surprise friends and family alike.

    The release date is still unknown but we’re definitely looking out for this one!

  • 6 Questions About the Kano School Rape
    Last week, Nigeria was shocked with a disturbing report that secondary school students in Kano had been raped by some unknown men. How could this happen? Who let it happen?  We have so many questions about everything but these are the biggest ones….

    1. Why does the Nigerian press seem to struggle with the word “rape in this case?

    We’ve read “sodomy” a few times but apart from Premium Times, has anyone used the word “rape” to describe what happened to the boys?

    2. Is it inconceivable that victims were raped by senior students?

    Why are the authorities insisting that the rapists came from outside the school?

    3. Are the students getting medical attention?

    Premium Times reports that the school is preventing the victims from receiving care outside the school.

    4. Is this an isolated incident or an epidemic?

    Has this happened before in this school? And are students being raped in secondary schools across Nigeria?

    5. Will the perpetrators be caught and prosecuted?

    Our history in this department is not very great. Especially since the proprietor of the school reportedly denies the incident.

    6. If your child, sibling or relative were a student of that school, what would you do?

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