Financial transparency in relationships is everything. There’s nothing more heartbreaking than finding out the LOYL isn’t being honest with you when it comes to money.
Before you spend half the relationship giving freely and receiving excuses, these are signs to help you know they’re just plain selfish (because they don’t want to give) or manipulative (because they still want to borrow or get you to spend on them).
No bank alerts on their phones
In this world of “savings or current” everywhere you turn? There’s no way they aren’t receiving alerts. They’re either deleting or got their bank to stop sending. This can only mean one thing.
They never release their ATMs
Picture this. They need money, have no plans to go to the ATM, but the moment you offer to hep them withdraw, they squeeze an impromptu ATM run into their schedule.
They complain about money before you ask
It’s called “counter-billing”. After all, you’ll have to be an insensitive partner to ask for more money when “My dear, they’ve not paid salary and the month ended two weeks ago”.
They never come home with receipts
I know it’s giving team #SaveTheEarth, but think about it, if you don’t see the receipt, how will you know how much they spent? Or that they even spent money at all.
Multiple personal bank accounts
Two to three bank accounts is understandable, but five? Six? Something is off, and they’re probably stashing millions in one of those accounts.
They avoid money talk
It’s one of two things. One: They don’t have money and feel too sad to confront their reality. Two: They have money but don’t want you to know about it.
They never withdraw in your presence
They avoid the ATM like a plague whenever you’re around. In fact, you’ve never seen them use the facility. In case you don’t know why, it’s because they don’t want to part with some of that cash when you see it.
Now that you know, what’s the next course of action?
Talk
Because sometimes our feelings get the best of us and we could be jumping to conclusion. Have a conversation to highlight your worries, and pay attention to how they respond because that’ll determine your next move.
Memorise their salary date
Infor l’eyan fin fo. When you know their pay day, no excuse they come up with will hold water.
Revenge
This should be your last resort, when you’ve seen they have no intention to change their evil ways. If they go low, go lower than the snake in a ditch.
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