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  • Navigating Nigeria: A Tinder Date Turns Into An Unexpected Brush with Drug Trafficking

    Sometimes in life, you don’t get a warning about what’s ahead of you. Some things show up, and you are expected to make tough decisions that have to weigh many factors, such as love, the law, societal norms, and moral values. Suppose you find yourself in an online dating scenario where you only want a good time, and a drug trafficker shows up and asks for your help. Will you stake it all out for love? For Navigating Nigeria this week, Citizen spoke to Angela*, who narrated how she almost unknowingly became a drug courier.

    *Name redacted to protect their identity

    Editorial Note: Navigating Nigeria is a platform for Nigerians to passionately discuss the Nigerian experience with little interference from individual opinions. While our editorial standards emphasise the truth and endeavour to fact-check claims and allegations, we are not responsible for allegations made about other people based on half-truths.

    Walk us through your experience

    This was in April 2021. It had been years since I had a boyfriend or someone to call a lover. It also didn’t help that I’m an introverted person. Parties and nightclubs weren’t scenes I was accustomed to. 

    Because of this, I used Tinder, the dating app, to connect with people within my neighbourhood. Call it naïveté, but I wasn’t particular about the age of the guys. I was looking for anyone with a fine face and a sexy body.

    Lol. Any luck?

    I found the profile of this fair-complexioned and handsome man named David, who happened to be in his 30s. I swiped right to accept, and after a few minutes, I got a notification that he swiped right on my profile too. Boom, a match! 

    We then got talking, and he mentioned that he worked as a project manager in London and was coming to Nigeria for his sister’s wedding the following weekend. 

    He then asked me if I was single or in a relationship, as he was looking for a cool lady to “settle down with” and that he “admired me.” I began to suspect that things were fishy because how could he admire me after only two days of knowing each other? But I went along with it. 

    A few days later, he came to my DMs to ask if he could buy anything for me since he was coming to Nigeria. I told him it wasn’t necessary, and he sounded cool about it. 

    The following week, I woke up early in the morning to receive a call from a freight agency saying that I had a package from David. That morning, David had also sent a message that he had sent me gifts despite my earlier insistence that it wasn’t necessary.

    The gift items included an iPhone 11, wigs, shoes, and a sealed box. I won’t lie, I was so excited and started planning how to receive the package from Customs. 

    Three hours later, I got a call from Customs asking me what was in the box. I told him it was £300 as David told me, and they didn’t believe me. They had dogs sniff the package, and they had every reason to suspect that there were drugs in it. 

    I confronted David about it, and he told me that he had kept both £300 in the box for me and also five grammes of methamphetamine, aka meth, which is a banned substance. 

    Ahhh

    He wanted to sell it to a firm in Nigeria to produce certain pills. David also told me things had been difficult for him in London, and he was planning to relocate to Nigeria. He had to use the drug to get money for relocation. It was then that I knew that I had been interacting with a drug trafficker all along and that I was in serious trouble if this matter proceeded any further. 

    He begged me to tell them it was just money, but I refused and left Customs to confiscate the package. We never spoke again after that day.

    What was your takeaway from the whole experience?

    The primary emotion I felt was anger, not even fear. Because if I had known that the guy was a drug pusher, I wouldn’t have gone through this wahala. Thankfully, I wasn’t there when the dogs were sniffing the package. It was the Customs guy who informed me of the arrival of the goods and told me everything via phone.

    I only got away without much trouble because I was crying hot tears on the phone. And this was after I paid #10k or so. Even then, I had to plead my innocence with them, using my age as a young girl who’d never met the man in my life. Since then, I’ve not used Tinder again. I prefer making real-life connections.

    ***In April, the UN Office on Drugs and Crime released its Global Cocaine Report for 2023. The report revealed that Nigeria played a significant role in the smuggling of drugs—particularly at mid-level and dealer levels—in Africa and beyond.

    ALSO READ: Is Nigeria the Cocaine Capital of Africa?

  • Use These Bios to Find Your Dream Partner on Tinder

    If you’re into online dating apps, you know your bio is basically your CV. No one’s going to read a boring bio. That’s why you should use one of these 13 Tinder bios to step up your online dating game and find your dream partner.

    1. “It’s your time to shine”

    Find your dream partner

    2. “The Nigerian prince they told you about”

    Nigerian prince wants to help you Find your dream partner

    3. “Jesus saves. I spend”

    Your dream partner spends

    4. “If you like, swipe left. My God will judge you as you’ve judged me”

    5. “If you’re not getting a Canadian passport soon, please, swipe left”

    6. “I’m the Lord’s chosen. But I still want you to choose me”

    7. “I’m not here for a hookup. I just want to get hooked on you”

    8. “I have fuel, and there’s rice at home”

    9. “Hi, My name is Tess. If your surname is Tickle, I’ll have to marry you”

    10. “I gag on my toothbrush, so don’t get too excited”

    11. “I take mad pictures. Your Instagram is gonna be lit!

    12. “At least, your kids will be fine”

    13. “Are you somebody’s son? Find me right now”


    NEXT READ: These Conversation Starters Will Take Your Online Dating Game to a 100


  • Why Nigerian Women Can’t Fall for the Tinder Swindler

    Instagram vendors aside, everybody knows Nigerian women are too smart for their own good and that’s why they never fall for scam. Here’s a list of reasons why a Nigerian woman can never be on the Tinder Swindler’s list. 

    1. They have two heads 

    First things first, Nigerian women have two heads. That you don’t see the two heads doesn’t mean it’s not true. One head is not enough to tell when someone is about to scam you because they use manipulative tactics to fool you into believing them. This is where the Nigerian woman’s second head comes in.

    2. They don’t have money

    Which money do they want to send to him and how? In this economy? How much do Nigerian women make and how much access do they have to loans? LOL, this idea is even funny. 

    3. The small money they have is in PiggyVest 

    Nigerian women and PiggyVest’s Safelock feature are like 5&6. Once they make a substantial amount of money, they’re saving it and you know once you lock the money, you can’t use it until the release date. This arrangement can’t work for Mr. Leviev, who wanted liquid money every three to five working days. 

    4. He is just boyfriend number 5 

    To fall for Mr. Leviev’s scam means they’re committed to the relationship and we all know that Nigerian women don’t put their eggs in one basket.This is not to say that they cheat; they are just much happier when there’s a number of people to choose from.

    5. They have the sixth eye 

    Yes, they know things even before they happen. They know when their boyfriends are planning to cheat or which of their friends is secretly jealous of her new wig. They would definitely be able to tell when someone is trying to use them to sponsor their lifestyle. Forget all those Instagram vendor scam stories and listen to me. 

    6. They reply texts after 3-5 business days 

    After Mr. Swindler sends that first “I need $10,000 now, my enemies are after me” text, he will have to wait for three business days before a Nigerian woman will reply to him. Why? Because she’s busy not putting all her eggs in one basket. When she eventually replies, she will say, “Babe, were you able to sort this out? I wasn’t with my phone.”

    7. They have trust issues 

    When you say your enemies are after you, a Nigerian woman’s first assumption is that it’s your ex trying to kill you and if indeed it’s your ex, what did you do to warrant such, Mr. Man? 

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  • 6 Types Of Foreigners You Are Bound To Meet On Any Dating Site

    If you’ve ever been on a dating site, you’d find yourself exposed to a myriad of humans who are just as horny as you are. One constant is the presence of foreigners on these sites. Which leads us to the 6 types of foreigners you are bound to meet on any dating site.

    1. The normal foreigner

    These are the good ones that want to chill and have coffee with you. They are very normal and can carry on a conversation pretty well. Their names are ultra-simple like “Jon” “Mac” or “Leo”. However, conversations with them burn out fast because they are so boring.

    2. The Family guy

    Always in his 40s with photos of him living his best life away from his family. Always eager to tell you about his family and their dog, Jessie. He will politely tell you that he’s been feeling lonely and desires your company while he’s in your country. Yoruba men have nothing on the family guy.

    3. The overly sexual foreigner

    The first conversation with them usually has some weird statement like “I can tell you have great nipples from your smile.” Don’t get me started on the Indians or Lebanese men who would outrightly ask you to show them your “vagena”. Alexa play “I want to put you in 7 positions in 70 minutes.

    4. The traveller

    Any account that has so many country flags in their bio is a traveller. They are always so exotic with their photos of cafes in different countries. Problem is, they want to know where you’ve travelled to and apparently, you village doesn’t count.

    5. The chocolate goddess seeker

    There are foreigners who like the idea of black women. They will come at you with praises of the smoothness of your caramel, chocolate skin. Hailing you like a goddess and making claims to want to worship you. Honestly, they are just looking for exotic sex but what they don’t know is that you become a quadriplegic during sex. Ojoro cancel ojoro.

    6. The catfish

    Any foreigner you see in an army uniform, know that their base is in Ikorodu or one GRA house in Benin city. The catfish foreigners are so wild. If you are here serving your country, why do you need 50k from me to deliver a gift to me?

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  • 6 Red Flags To Watch Out For When Using Dating Apps

    I’ve always been terrified of dating apps. I’ve seen way too many horror movies, which means that the idea of not really knowing who’s on the other side of that too-good-to-be-true profile scares the hell out of me. So in an attempt to help fight (what has been described as) my irrational fear, I downloaded the dating app called Tinder, just to test the waters.

    I deleted the app an hour later. The whole thing was just too much.

    Anyway, here’s some stuff I learned during my brief time in the super weird world of online dating. Basically, a list of red flags I noticed.

    1) Run from the people that say that they’re into “matured minds” or refer to themselves as “Sapiosexual.”

    Because more often than not, they’re as dumb as a bag of wet hair. They only put it there because they somehow found out what it means and want to signal intelligence but do the exact opposite by writing shit like, “Am a sapiosexual.

    2) Run from people who say anything along the lines of, “Go straight to the point and don’t waste my time.”

    Because unlike you, who is probably there looking for a potential soul mate, this person is there to hook up. Now, this isn’t a bad thing, it’s just good to know so you don’t waste your own time.

    3) Run from people that are offering “massages with happy endings.

    Erotic massages are glorious (SO I’VE HEARD), but know that the people on dating apps offering this aren’t doing it for free. If you decide to meet with one of them, you WILL be parting with money before you get your “happy ending.”

    4) Run from profiles containing pictures of white people whose their locations tell a different story.

    Like the one that has a picture of a white woman posing in front of a Walmart but her location says “University of Ado Ekiti.” Everything about this scenario I just described signals that there is treachery afoot.

    Stay woke.

    5) Run from people who have a group photo as their only photo.

    Because you’ll never know which one of them in the picture is the person you’re talking to, and you’ll never know until you meet them in person. Is that a risk you’re willing to take?

    6) Run from people who keep insisting you come visit them.

    Did someone say potential serial killer??

    Run, girl.

    Run.

  • One of the best and worst parts of social media is how it has changed relationships!

    One moment you’re laughing at a similar joke, the next thing dm, the next thing love is in the air!

    But because human beings are professionals at behaving somehow, the love can sometimes miss road.

    And you wonder how you got yourself into this nonsense situation!

    Because we love you, Zikoko made a video where people spoke about the ups and downs of finding love on social media.

    If you can relate (which we are sure many of you can), tell us about your experiences in the comments section. If you really enjoyed this and would like to share your thoughts and ideas in one of our videos, sign up here!